Return of Equilibrium
As the preceding stories illustrate, some time is required for things to play
out before equilibrium is restored in a person who has been in the grip.
However, as the last story shows, chronically being in the grip may force
a person to permanently leave the stressful situation.
The following comments were made by some Introverted Feeling
types about how they typically disengage from inferior function experiences.
Note that for both ISFPs and INFPs, it is important that they be
able to spend some time alone when emerging from the grip and not be
âhelpedâ by others.This appears to be less crucial for female ISFPs, who
are likely to welcome talking to others early in the process. Female INFPs
find talking to others helpful, but not usually right away. Male Introverted
Feeling types mention talking to others less frequently. Engaging in relaxing,
distracting activities and hobbies is helpful for both genders.
âI need to get away and think things through,â said an ISFP.âPeople
should just let me be,â he added. An INFP said she needs to âgo with the
flow, get away from the situation for a while. I need to talk about it without
being censored (or taken too seriously).â And another INFP agreed
that âI donât like it when others help. Iâll just be with myself and work out
solutions or compromises.â
âIt has to expire on its own,â said an ISFP.âIf someone else says something
about it, it can make it worseâunless I am already coming out of
it. If someone I respect but am not emotionally close to says something, I
may check it out. It depends on how it is said.â
âI need to go with the flow and allow myself time to experience it.
Others need to be patient and empathic.They need to allow me time to
reflect,â said another ISFP.
âExercise helps, and so does talking to someone. But others need to
listen and not try to reason with me or be logical. Having my feelings validated
A consistent theme that seems to signal that the experience is winding
down is an often painful awareness of the effect their inferior function
is having on people.âWe become aware of the damage to relationships
caused by the episode and are thankful itâs over,â reported a group of
Introverted Feeling types. One INFP said, âI become aware of being out
of sorts, take a deep breath, chill out (after being embarrassed). Others
need to give me space and be forgiving when I ask forgiveness.â Another
INFP reported that âIt helps if others let me have my say, donât get defensive,
and donât challenge my âtruthâ at that moment.Acknowledge that you
understand what Iâm saying.We can talk about it when Iâm myself again.â
The process of becoming âoneself againâ can be aided by auxiliary
Sensing or Intuition. ISFPs find it helpful to satisfy their Sensing need for
sleep, or to simply âzone outâ by watching a lot of television. Later, starting
a craft project that uses established skills may signal the diminishing
effects of an inferior function episode. Engaging in distracting activities,
hobbies, and recreation is helpful. INFPs also can find new energy and
motivation by coming up with an intriguing thought or a new approach
to an ongoing project.
INFPs report that the process of emerging from their grip experience
happens simultaneously with the new learning or awareness that occurs.
In line with their overriding focus on growth and development, they seem
to welcome any opportunity to expand their self-awareness, even when it
is painful. This happens for other types as well, but it seems to be more
noticeable for those who have Intuition as their auxiliary function. Often
the new knowledge comes in the form of a previously unrecognized idea
or new insight.This is what occurred for the person who realized he had
approached the take-home exam from the wrong perspective.