As far as Fe goes, whether it suppresses or works in conjunction with my Fi determines whether or not it's valued in that instance. I'm careful to distance myself from anything not in line with my personal values or that I can't interact with in a way that doesn't contradict them, because by engaging with it for too long, I'm perpetuating a relationship between myself and that aesthetic, thing, person, vibe, etc. that suggests that that's who I am and fills me with an emotional vibe I'm not attracted to. This lack of openness makes me come off as extremely J and is why my XXXP friend criticized me heavily. And as I tried to open myself up in response to his criticisms and it abnegated me, my selective accessibility isn't unfounded. I am slowly rebuilding my psychological walls.
When I like something, I want to attach myself to it as much as possible, so much that I treat my interactions with people, aesthetic vibes, and ideas I'm compelled by, and even food as kind of divine integration rituals. This also makes me easily influenced by people I'm attached to.
My primary activities involve evaluating and developing emotional contexts; and I enjoy activities only to the level that I can give them an emotional significance.
My biggest goal is to find someone I'm compelled by who I can attach myself to utterly without distorting or suppressing my sense of self, and who I can create rituals/emotional contexts/stories with intensively.