For the T/F borderline.
I don't get into many conflicts, but whenever I do, its difficult. If it is an intense argument, I will feel hurt or angry, but I almost always hide my feelings and not let them influence my responses, that is unless I choose to allow them (This is in special situations when I'm dealing with a feeler and I know showing certain feelings will help the case). I keep a calm face, and try to deal with everything in a reasonable efficient manner and endeavor to try to understand the other person's side... getting things settled to a compromise is more important. Sometimes, though, I give in and let the other person have the benefit of the doubt, or I'll take more of the load.
But I still have my emotions, and if I have to show it, I will. Only if its necessary.
Afterwards, if I have to let out uncontrolled emotions, I'll go where I can be alone.
In most arguments, I know which side (F or T) the other person is riding on, and so I will adjust. I'll pick and choose my side depending on what I think will work better for the person I'm talking to.
I usually let my thinking be the ringleader.
Anyone else experience this?