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    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    I feel tired after much socializing, both physically and mentally (but mostly mentally). When overly stimulated, I would just like to get away and be alone. Sometimes I'll feel sleepy when around many people for a while, but I'll be wide awake with few people / when alone.

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    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    When we do an activity that is interesting to me, then I won't really feel drained. If it's a boring discussion or something, then there's an even greater likelihood I'll be drained.

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    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    When there is not much external stimulation, not many people, when I'm doing something of interest.

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    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    Brief, to-the-point, blunt, clear.

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    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    Tough question, it varies depending on my energy during the day... I'd say, apart from sleep, probably several hours.

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    Interesting questions...

    1) I am drained by extremely extroverted people, especially if I can't keep up with them. ExTJ's are the most tiring for me typically. I can't seem to ever get much out of being in a room with more than about 4 or 5 people, so if there's a party I can't be there for too long or I start getting really anxious. It helps of course if it's people I know, but in most situations I prefer 3 or less.

    2) If I'm with people that I'm comfortable around, I'm fine. I don't really see it in the typical terms of "gaining and losing energy," I just get anxious. But I'm most comfortable when discussing something of interest to me or if it's people I know very well.

    3) I have found that at my shows (I'm in a band with simulatedworld) I am generally very happy and comfortable and don't really feel as if I'm losing mental energy, only physical energy if it's a long show.

    4) Normal conversation style for me is definitely listen more/answer questions. I do better responding to a question or a statement than I do creating a topic or asking questions. In in interview I would be the one searching for the appropriate words to express my feelings on a situation, not the one posing the questions.

    5) I do not like alone time. I may be a rare occurrence among introverts in this way, but alone time makes me very uncomfortable. I prefer being with my girlfriend or with a buddy or a roommate or something. I would say around lots of people I get anxious, whereas alone I get uneasy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    It is like being drained, literally, everything around me gets a piece of me and I just want to vanish on the spot. In a group setting or even individually, my mind starts to wander, I start to shut off to the outside world and it becomes a blur, like I'm physically in a slow-motion loop and the rest of the world is bustling around me.
    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    It depends on my energy levels and the people I'm with. Good mood=lots of energy; bad mood=no energy. If I'm in a really good mood and the people I'm with are also in a good mood, then there's this pleasant energy give-take thing going on. I can go on pretty long like this.

    However, if I feel the need to hold up the mood for the whole group all the time, then it gets old really fast and things just fall apart.

    If I'm in a bad mood, everything irritates me and it's not even draining, it's an energy spill going on there and I need to get away, fast.
    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    My own home. My absolute haven. The second I walk out of my front door, the drainage of energy begins, faster or slower, depending on my mood.
    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    I listen, nod and smile. Others talk. I pay attention, give a few remarks here and there but I'm always distant, can't help it.
    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    As long as it takes. I don't have a steady, 9-5 lifestyle, so it differs greaty on a daily basis, and again, depends on my mood. I could survive as a hermit for the rest of my life.

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    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    I feel like I over-focus on people, and I exhaust myself.

    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    Every once in a great while, someone else gives me energy, but mostly, I am spending it on them, so I would say I always feel drained around people.

    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    My house.
    A quiet place.

    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    Smile and nod. Jump in with the word someone is looking for. Facilitate. Sometimes entertain.

    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    As much as I can possibly get. I will stay up late just to get alone time. (Sleeping doesn't count.) I could also be a hermit the rest of my life. I don't go out unless I have to.

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    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?

    I get drowsy, irritable, and feel like an energy vampire paid me a visit. When people try to interact with me I get rude and dismissive. All that I want to do for the rest of the day is withdraw. Depending on how much stimulation I want a good night's sleep will make me fine. If it's too much. I feel really bleh for the next day and need to get some more caffeine than usual.

    How often you don't feel drained around people ?

    I don't feel drained when they are people that I feel secure with/enjoy and who I have known for a long time. I also don't get drained when people don't talk constantly. The less people talk, the less drained I get.

    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?

    At my house or a friend's house, or being in a moving vehicle. This may be different for a sensor, because I just take in the environment and enjoy it as I ride. Also being alone pretty much anywhere where I don't have to talk to people doesn't make me lose much at all.

    Describe your normal conversation stile ?

    I'm a responder about 65% of the time, the other 35% I am an initiator. It's just simply much easier to respond to what the other person is saying.
    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?

    ~3-4 hours maybe, or just 2. Depends on what else I'm doing that day. But a day without alone time creates a decent amount of stress for me.
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    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    How often you don't feel drained around people ?


    i usually don't feel drained by people. but it seems like i have a tipping point where socialization just suddenly collapses for me. after i have been around someone for a while i hit this tipping point, and then i start to very quickly become antsy and uncomfortable. it feels less draining to me and more like unreleased energy that is pent up. sort of like a solitary energy that can't be released around other people. so it doesn't feel like i am sleepy or sluggish, it feels more like claustrophobia and spinning out of control. i am talking about really extreme cases, of course.

    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?

    it seems like i loose energy a lot slower if i meet people somewhere else, instead of having them come to me.
    and at home i can socialize a lot longer.

    Describe your normal conversation stile ?

    clipped and concise, usually. i pass on a lot of conversations that don't interest me, and then throw myself at the ones that do.
    i have a habit of interrupting people. but i like to be interrupted too.

    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?

    i think it depends on how much negativity i come up against during the day. but a couple of hours alone, i guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    My Se and Fe gets pulled into overdrive in regards to being aware of others feelings and doing something about it. I would prefer to be the one running all over the place with 5 different tasks going at once then being the one to figure out what needs to be done.

    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    If left to my own accord I can avoid this as I will escape, if forced to stay in situations then alot.

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    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    Any physically demanding setting, analyzing problems, when I dont have to worry about how others feel.

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    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    Low energy(doesnt mean non emotional). I will not jump up and down with you, but I will be happy for you. I may not cry with you, but I will hurt inside. Also I enjoy analyzing reasons and troublshooting things, digging into things.

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    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    Couple hours probably. Doesnt have to be alone, just mental time.
    Im out, its been fun

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    How exactly do you experiance being drained my people and socializing ?
    It depends on the people and the situation. When the pressure to 'perform' in social situations is greater or the subject is urgent/upsetting, then it drains me to the point that I feel like it's a battle to preserve my inner sense of calm at any given moment. The drained feeling is the result of gathering up my internal defenses and trying to deal with unanticipated changes that my momentarily rigid mind can't deal with.

    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    Not often, unfortunately. Maybe a half a dozen times a month.

    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy?
    Not by myself, actually. I'm most at ease in the company of 2-3 people I'm completely relaxed around. There's no pressure to carry the conversation and I'm not by myself enough to get carried away by negative thoughts.

    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    When it's a good conversation, I'm cracking jokes and smiling all the time. I'm very bubbly and easy to engage. In serious discussions, I have no problem putting my ideas out, having them scrutinized and following the Ne train from topic to topic.

    But if I'm uncomfortable around the people I'm with, I feel judged and dismissed. I clam up and get defensive about my opinions when they are pulled out of me. I'm not flexible enough to follow a conversation as it flows and get frustrated if a topic passes too quickly. It feels weird to me silent, so I say stupid crap to fulfill the (perceived) expectation that I speak, leading to yet more awkwardness.

    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    It depends on who I'm avoiding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How exactly do you experience being drained my people and socializing ?
    At some point, even if I feel fine and am enjoying myself, suddenly I will be restless, unable to focus on what is being said, and I feel physically exhausted and drained and want to just get away.

    it's, uh, like feeling tired and drained, ya know?

    If I can't get away physically, I will withdraw into myself.
    If I do that, inevitably people start asking me if I'm "okay."

    Note it can happen suddenly, just like a car finally runs out of gas and just stops.
    I can seem fine and engaging one minute, then suddenly I drop "below minimum energy level" and I just shut down.

    How often you don't feel drained around people ?
    Kind of hard to answer. As long as my reservoir is not drained, I'm good to go. If I did not fill my reservoir completely the last time, my "good time" will be shorter.

    In what suroundings you lose the smallest amount of energy ?
    Low-key and private. Maybe coffee house is the best-case social setting.
    Louder events with more people/stimulation will drain me faster.

    Describe your normal conversation stile ?
    One on one; one on small group.

    If I don't know people well, i just listen and smile and drop an occasional comment. If I can't get in a comment, I might eventually leave.

    How much alone time do you need during a average day ?
    I get a lot of alone time already because I work in a cube.
    So I don't know the answer.

    It depends on how rested I am... and how preoccupied with my current thoughts I am. If I am distracted by a project/task/interest, or if I'm tired, I'm more apt to avoid people.
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