Let me ask something for clarity's sake: Do you mean that you don't like to be "handled" by others? If that's the case, then I fully agree. I hate it when I detect that I'm being herded (or the attempt is being made at least...) or cajoled into something I don't jive with.
I'm not a dominant/dominating type, but I have been told I'm very forceful and tend to stare the bull down when it's lowering its horns at me. Good thing I have my ENFP to jerk me back over the fence when I'm being unreasonable.
And that whole NTJ "I'm going to take over the world" thing is par for the course. Just let them say it. It makes them feel better. Whether one will actually do it is another matter. Things look pretty solid in the SP/SJ authority structure at this time. I see no NTJs rattling the windows as of yet. I point this out with regularity to both my extroverted and introverted NTJs and they admit they haven't achieved World Domination (tm) yet.