An additional thought to share:
I think that Fi expressed through enneagram types would vary in how it looks and feels to the outside world. That may explain some of the diversity of opinion in thread. 4 wings and 9 wings seem very distinct from each other (as two common INFP enneagram types). As a 9 wing, I am very reserved in my expression of feelings to others. My primary motivation is harmony. Thus I tend to repress a lot of negative emotions, and deal with them through an internal process rather than spilling them out onto the world. I have mentioned already in thread that perhaps 95 - 99% of my emotions are known only to me (or perhaps sensed by another empathic person). Plus, I may feel what you are feeling, but I seldom thrust that upon anyone.
Perhaps looking deeper into the enneagram would benefit your analysis teslashock. It is why some people here can relate to what's been said, and why others don't. It's not because we are in denial. It's because we just don't express our dominant function in the way you think you see it, or perhaps see it in others.
I see people be careless with their emotions and how they interact with the world frequently, hurting others with words and actions. It is something that is repulsive to me and something I am very conscientious to avoid.