That's fine! Good or bad, doesn't matter
Perhaps the question should be:
If I were X Tertiary, and I was attracted to Y Primary, is it because of mutual Y-function? For example, are ENFPs, IF ATTRACTED to ESTJs and ENTJs, attracted to Te? Is that the draw?
Are INTPs consistently drawn toward ISxJs for the reasons of bolstering Si?
Are ISTPs, like INTJMom's husband, initially awakened to their love interests by the use of Ni in said subjects if they are attracted to Ni users in the first place?
I'd also like to posit that most people use their third function as a way out of trouble before the agent of chaos (inferior function) kicks in, usually to bad results (esp if you're stressed and not accessing your inferior function purposefully in a guided manner). I see the Tertiary function as being very powerful, transformative even, though it comes in so belated.