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  • I am a happy N

    49 63.64%
  • I am a happy S

    16 20.78%
  • I am an unhappy N and want to be an S is (if possible)

    10 12.99%
  • I am an unhappy S and want to be an N is (if possible)

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    Default I wish I were an S

    I haven't posted much but I've been around. I have often wondered why so many people (read Ns) seem to put down Ss. I don't get this whole wanting to be an N. Some have suggested that it has to do with wanting to be unique and that since Ss are "suppose" to be the majority, no one dares type as an S (Mbti tests are easily fooled once you know the system).

    I hate N. In my case, I seem to come up with all these conclusions that seem poorly based on reality and they often come back to bite me in the ass. It has its advantages since I'm an analyst and have to make recommendations, but it took me a long time to make sure my recommendations were based on the data. Nevertheless, I continuously have to check my perception with others to make sure I haven't gone completely off track. In fact, one of the VPs at work is an INTP and most people don't want to work with him because he's usually off in his head and has a hard time communicating the information.

    My closest coworker (analyst like me) is an ISFJ and he is the most decent, amicable, hard-working, considerate, smart and creative guy I have met. He has a beatiful wife and kid (meaning that he is socially stable, in my books anyways) and he treats them with love and respect and they seem to have a great time. We are similar in many ways buy I find that his main advantage over me is that he doesn't stress about the meaning of it all.

    So, what's up with wanting to be an N? Why aren't more people typed as Ss here?
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    Poll results this far: five happy Ns, one happy S and two unhappy Ns. I fear your poll will attract happy Ns wanting to show it's not that bad to be an N, thus skewing the results.

    I'm a quite extreme and happy N. Not enjoying the present because of a lot of plans, having to concentrate a lot when details have to be right - you name it. Sometimes, I wish for a little bit more S. I want to enjoy the present too.

    I never wanted to be an N, or an S for that matter. I knew myself already quite well before I even heard of Myers-Briggs. Like I said in another thread: the description has to follow reality, not vice-versa. I'm Tamske, a teacher, a wife, an amateur writer and a thousand other things before I'm an ENTP.

    ... Stressing about the meaning of it all? What are you talking about? Have I really found an aspect where I'm not N?

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    People think N is mystical or ideal.

    Truth is I have researched this. S get the same results as N with perceived lesser effort.

    The only exception being the healthy N.

    I think a lot of people who just think a lot, classify themselves as N. Sure introspection is a "part" of it, but the willingness to grasp concepts is more.

    For instance an unhealthy S may look for signs and be analytical.

    The healthy N recognizes an underlying component and capitalizes on it IF it is relevant.

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    Mystical? Ideal??
    If *that* is the definition of N, I'm going to get my Sensor badge now! :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamske View Post
    I fear your poll will attract happy Ns wanting to show it's not that bad to be an N, thus skewing the results.
    I know that my poll is flawed , this is what I do for a living. The source of the sample is wrong because it is over represented by Ns. Also, as you said the title creates a bias in self selection. I just like polls and stats and will probably put in one in any string I start

    Quote Originally Posted by Tamske View Post
    I want to enjoy the present too.
    Exactly my point.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tamske View Post
    I'm Tamske, a teacher, a wife, an amateur writer and a thousand other things before I'm an ENTP.
    I'm glad that you seem to have a firm notion of your identity. However, my point is that Ns relative disconnectedness from reality makes this hard to do.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tamske View Post
    ... Stressing about the meaning of it all? What are you talking about? Have I really found an aspect where I'm not N?
    I'll yield on this one. That is most probably more NF than anything else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    S get the same results as N with perceived lesser effort.
    This is what I suspect too. I think that N makes us second guess too much.

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    The only exception being the healthy N.
    I guess I've revealed myself then Bah, it's all part of soul-searching.

    So there you have it Ss are just as smart but have it easier than Ns. So back to my main question, why is there so much S bashing in the N forums (especially NF).

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    I'd rather just be who I am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamske View Post
    Mystical? Ideal??
    If *that* is the definition of N, I'm going to get my Sensor badge now! :P
    HAHHAHA ^^^ That!

    Nah, seriously, I'd rather be an IxTJ any day....I think that's why I tested ISTJ in high school - I considered that to be my ideal. Someone quiet, reflective, detached/objective, and reserved who can get shit done and not bitch about it. What's not to like?!

    Now some of you may think I'm being a sarcastic person, but I'm serious. Until I was in my mid-20s, I DESPERATELY WANTED to be an IxTJ....

    Still do, but now I realize that I'm just not...and well, who cares??? Just gotta love myself as I am.
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    I might be an N. I might be an S.

    Either way, I'm generally happy with how I operate and am subsequently happy with my type, whatever it is.
    If a deaf INFP falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

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    This website can glorify N's as being mystical and ideal at times. I think IRL it can be like the OP suggests. Someone who takes all kinds of irrelevant information and draws conclusions that don't help situations at all.

    Just like you can find a dumb S who can't read between the lines and likes to watch football and has nothing witty or interesting to add to conversations. That also doesn't help at all. Anyone of any type can be "ideal" if they use their strengths to the best of their ability and try to work on their weaknesses.

    I guess i'm preaching to the choir.

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