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    Default Introverts- When you need to "recharge"

    1. What happens to you personally?
    2. What are some experiences?
    3. What causes you to need to "recharge?"


    Keep in mind I'm a very, very mild Introvert. Things will differ based on percentages and how preferred someone is.

    For me, right now, I feel very unmotivated and tired. I think that I would crack if I interacted with another human being in the real world or over the phone (thank god I live in a cabin on a mountain). I lack energy, I got groceries today and I felt like I was going to fall asleep standing up, it was like everything was moving 2x slower than usual. I drank an energy drink, and now I just feel like I do when I need a nap.

    I just don't want to do anything! This is because yesterday I got back from visiting relatives for four days straight. I survived that because I am a night dweller and I was up 3-5 hours more than everyone else. That was 4 days of talking to people and catching up, and interacting with the world. It hit me like a truck last night, and I was feeling the effects of it driving home. My ENFJ mom noticed that I was quieter than usual as well, but knows about MBTI and I have explained introversion to her before.

    These are some things that happen to me typically-


    • General lack of energy and focus
    • Losing patience with people and things in general much, much quicker than normal
    • A general lack of tact
    • Wanting to sit around in silence with just my pets or music as external things going on, or to just play video games all day

    I'll add more later...

    Extroverts just seem to not understand the Introvert's side of the spectrum, and maybe this thread can enlighten some people.
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    I just check out mentally, and sit inside my head chasing pwetty butterflies.

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    I'm a very expressed introvert.

    The cause for the need to recharge - information overload; not enough space and time to process everything I've come into contact with. It tires me immensely.

    I know that there's a need to step back and take a breather when I usually just want to control everything around me so that it wouldn't bother me. I just need to get away from everything and everyone. When I get tired, I can get really irritated by small things and I snap at people. My evil side, the bitter sarcastic whiny bitch emerges and people best get away from my sight then. I really don't want to harm anybody but I do utter some nasty remarks out of frustration and feel guilty because of that afterwards. It's just that at that moment I don't care about anybody but myself and my own well-being.
    I can pick a fight (verbal confrontation) merely out of spite and over some insignificant things.

    Basically, it's not pretty until I get some time to recharge. Then I'm all my usual self again Until next time...

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    I have moderate INTP "Wait, making this plan involves leaving my house? *goes to cancel plan*" syndrome. Other than that, I think I'm fine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE! View Post
    I know that there's a need to step back and take a breather when I usually just want to control everything around me so that it wouldn't bother me. I just need to get away from everything and everyone. When I get tired, I can get really irritated by small things and I snap at people. My evil side, the bitter sarcastic whiny bitch emerges and people best get away from my sight then. I really don't want to harm anybody but I do utter some nasty remarks out of frustration and feel guilty because of that afterwards. It's just that at that moment I don't care about anybody but myself and my own well-being.
    I can pick a fight (verbal confrontation) merely out of spite and over some insignificant things.
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    You know, I've thought - and even been told by others - that I am an ENFP (weak e) because I'm so talkative, outspoken, direct, and emotionally expressive.


    However, I possess the introvert quality of needing to "recharge." I face this most when I'm actually in a "recharge" phase - such as the past few days. I feel extremely unmotivated, anti-social (not like hurting people, just like not wanting to participate, not seeing the point in participating) and basically want to be freed of all societal constraints. I tend to spend a lot of time alone in my apartment with my cats, listening to music, watching movies, reading, getting on-line (duh!), and quietly working on school work, like writing.

    I've felt very drained and going through this since late Thursday night actually. Saturday night I worked and I felt so sleepy at the end of my shift (working with people) that I wanted to fall over. I don't completely become a hermit, though. Talking one-on-one with an extremely close friend is still nice as long as I don't have to be around a group.

    I also very, very much lose tact.

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    I get tired, my mind starts to wander alot more. If I have to be in a social group while needing to recharge, I get more quiet and, eventually, must get away from the group. If I let it go on too long, the noise becomes almost intolerable, and I get emotionally raw.

    For years, I did not know I was an introvert. I didn't know how to take care of myself. I thought I just had to muscle through it, suck it up and keep going. I'd end up in a deep depression every year after the holidays, and I never knew why. I mean, I knew I hated the running around, the shopping, the crowds, and even the extended family visits that would begin to feel like a marathon. I've always recognized the social anxiety. But, I'd just keep going, believing that I could not let the stress or the fear get the best of me. Basically, I abused myself.

    Since I found out about being an introvert and what that means, I don't mess around and I don't deny myself that down time. I still suffer some depression after the holidays, but every year I do something else to lessen the effects of all the socializing, so that I'm not a wreck for 3 months afterward. Still learning.

    I don't know, yet, how I'm going to deal with going back to work. It's been years since I had to work full-time around people. I use to crash for an entire weekend, sleeping all the way through, about once every 3 weeks or so. If any introverts have any suggestions on how to take good care of oneself while working full-time and having a family of extraverts, please let me know.

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    I don't necessarily feel drained after interacting with people. I can chat with someone for dozens of minutes and not only feel energetic, but more so than when I started. It takes longer, like four hours in someone's presence, for me to really wind down. When that happens, my thoughts and emotions shut off, and I can't speak unless someone prompts me to. What I need at that point is to withdraw so I can digest everything. Once I have a chance to do that, I feel another surge of energy like the one I get at the start of a good conversation. Too long by myself, though, and I'll start to feel drained again; I can only go so long without human contact.

    It's with raw information, like the kind you gather for research, that I'm most like an introvert in the traditional sense. I can do something as simple as read a few Wikipedia articles, and I'll come away feeling dazed, weak, and emotionally drained. Sensory stimulation has that effect, too, but it doesn't set in nearly as soon. I can listen to music for as much as an hour and still feel all right, whereas more than 20 minutes of Wikipedia'ing will make a mess of me.
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    1. What happens to you personally?
    2. What are some experiences?
    3. What causes you to need to "recharge?"


    1. The most noticeable thing, to me anyway, is my thought process. In addition to losing focus and energy, all of my "remaining mental (and physical, to a slightly lesser degree) energy" goes straight to planning how I can "get away".

    2. Primary experiences are strikingly similar to yours, but perhaps even more so. I consider myself to be highly introverted, or at the least, significantly more so than the people I am around on a weekly basis.

    You said:
    * General lack of energy and focus
    * Losing patience with people and things in general much, much quicker than normal
    * A general lack of tact
    * Wanting to sit around in silence with just my pets or music as external things going on, or to just play video games all day


    I say:
    Yes, I lose energy and focus. In this case, it's like I said above.... I can no longer keep focus (well, I can force myself to, but it makes it worse in the end. It's like using a credit card to pay for a credit card bill.) and it becomes very hard for me to concentrate. (Not so much simple tasks, but anything worthwhile. In my book, that requires thought.)

    Yes, I definitely lose patience with people and things. I don't ever "get mad", in the sense that most people do (emotional outburst, etc, etc) but I become very blunt, very cynical, and very irritated in general. It's usually a build up of "little annoyances" that get me to this point. (Which can be anything from overly-extroverted people that won't quit talking, somebody screwing up something I set up or planned, or just stupid things, like I couldn't focus enough to get my tie on correctly or whatever.)

    The general lack of tact ties into my last statement. When I get to that cynical, blunt stage, it's just that. I normally take a small amount of consideration to other people and their feelings when I make statements, but when I am in this condition, I don't care at all. I speak very plain, simple, and to the point. Usually negative. ; )

    Now here's the extreme part for me, I think. When I get to that point, all I can think about is escape. I think about being alone (doing my "introvert" stuff, like reading/gaming/writing/more reading/listening to and playing music/etc) almost as much as a teenager thinks about sexual intercourse. It's they way I would imagine an addiction would be like.

    3. I think I answered this one with above statements. Basically, the need to recharge comes from....too much stimulation, in the form of....almost anything but self-acquired information. I never get tired of researching things, reading stuff, or learning. The number one draining thing on me is social interaction. I know that sounds....stereotypical, but it's true for me. I read somewhere (probably on here, if I recall) about introverts having to put more thought work into conversations than extroverts. I don't know how true that is, but when in conversation, I spend a few seconds more than most people do to respond, because I'm.....really thinking about what they said. Unless the answer requires a quick response, I usually think about it for a moment.

    After a while, that starts to grate at me. I can easily digest information I feed to myself, because I can "ingest" it at my own pace. But with some people.....it's just too fast. It's sort of like trying to stream something or download a file on a dial-up connection. That's probably a decent depiction of how my brain works.... Imagine a massive hard drive, great processor, just all-around good computer, but connected to the outside with *ugh* dial-up.



    The beauty of it....? If I succeed in getting my introvert time, I return to my normal, stoic self. Plain on the outside, perfectly fine on the inside.

    ....until that battery runs out again.

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