1. What is your personality type?
ENTP with a high Fe
2. Are you male or female?
Male, I think
3. What country do you live in now? What country are you born in?
Born in Brittany (France), currently living in Paris (France)
4. What cultural background are you?
I'm the typical offspring of a french intellectual bourgeois family.
5. What religion are you? What religion is your family?
I am a firm atheist.
My father is a strong atheist, my mother is slightly jewish (progressive)
6. What career are you in or looking to be in? What are you doing right now to help you achieve this career goal?
Well, I work as a part time university teacher in landscape theory, as a researcher and as a consultant in urbanism contests. I especially enjoy the avant-garde trends in my domain, projects that both require new Ideas and lot of technical knowledges (whether in botany, in advanced construction materials and engineering... et caetera...).
For instance, I was a member of the team who worked to conceive a few vertical gardens. If you want to know what this is, check the site of Patrick Blanc, the mastermind behind this revolutionary idea.
-> VERTICAL GARDEN by PATRICK BLANC - MUR VEGETAL - GREEN WALL - LIVING WALL
Well, I'll hope someday I'll be able to lead my own small landscape architecture agency, but so far, working with clever/inspirational people has been quite rewarding.
7. What is your friendships like with both genders? How many good friends do you have and why are you friends with these people?
I consider myself a very social person, and hence, I have lot of friends either men or women, I make no discrimination. I especially have a lot of gay or lesbian friends (even if I'm straight myself), but this is normal within the landscape architecture/french artistic milieu...
Speaking about numbers... mmm... I'd say I have something like a dozen people I would really trust no matter what happens. Maybe a bit more?
I usually connect quickly and deeply with people (too quickly sometimes). I particularly enjoy the company of creative, brilliant people, and often work as a catalyst to inspire them, to bring the best out of them. I've recently noticed most of my working/creative companions are either INFP, ISFP and/or INFJ. We often bind into very efficient pairs...
My best friend since childhood, however, is a classic INTJ.
8. What paranoias do you have?
I am a chronically happy person, I do not have paranoias, I think...
Of course, I think of death, sometimes, but who doesn't?
I have survived many failures, so far.
Oh yes... I remember now: I have an acute fear of needles! :eek:
9. What are your vices?
I can be very manipulative, quite Machiavellian, sometimes, but I'd prefer to say I'm simply diplomatic. I have a tendency to consider people as pieces in my own sophisticated game, even if I genuinely want to help them. I love to argue, and to trick feelers up to their inner contradictions.
I am awfully lazy and disorganized, chaotic. This is why I require somebody to work with, or else, I have the global efficiency of a blob of jello. I said I inspire people, but people inspire me in return.
I can drink a lot (especially wine), but I'm very rarely drunk.
The guy who will be able to outdrink me is probably not born yet...
10. What are your fears?
Failing my commitments, or not being able to follow a deadline.
I'm also wondering if I ever will be able to find a stable, secure relationship with a woman. I have a tendency to fall in love with the shyest women, those who are impossible to reach.
And because it never works, I often end up in casual sex-only relationships just to spent the time... :sad:
I greatly enjoy kids, but I'm wondering if I will ever have some.
11. What is your relationship like with your parents? siblings (if you had any)?
- My mother is a very cold, neurotic, paranoid, and unemotional person, who never even allowed us to touch her (ISTJ). Let's say my relationship with her has always been very uneasy. She never respected my private space, and has a special gift to drive ordinary people insane.
- On the other hand, my father has always been very warm and caring (ENFJ today, but maybe ENTJ when he was young?), someone who enjoyed to kiss or hug his childrens. He's a quite known french intellectual, a fascinating person, and being his son has not always been an easy task (intellectuals have HUGE egos). I don't understand why he married my mother, they had continual, violent daily fights, and they divorced a few years later.
He doesn't tolerate well the fact I'm always late to appointments, but somehow, we have a very good relationship, mostly because we can have incredible, deep conversations and debates. I owe him my passion for knowledge, art, and even more...
- My older brother (ISFJ) is maybe the person I would trust the most in the world, if ever my life was at stake. He's loyal, reliable beyond belief, even if we're quite opposites. However, he doesn't get along very well with our father. They have political quarrels (my brother can be very stubborn sometimes), and sadly, my father doesn't consider him as a "true intellectual", at least according to his highly elitist views. I don't know how I could reconciliate them...
- My very young half-sister is a charming blond little girl, who can be very fiendish with her parents sometimes. She's in awe with me, she always claims I'm the person she loves the most (much to my step-mother dismay and jealousy), the one who could defend her or appease her whenever she needs it. She's right, I could give my life for her.
- My family is quite large, and there are many people among it who had a tremendous effect on my own life. My oldest aunt (INTP), for instance, is also someone fascinating, a very complex being, probably even smarter and more knowledgeable than my father. She is very cerebral, hyper-rational and hyper-manipulative but when she's under stress, she can behave very randomly (and very aggressively too).
Nonetheless, I owe her a lot too, for instance the hundreds of books she gave me (mostly about philosophy). It was her who introduced Sartre and an Foucault to my father.
12. How are you with expressing emotion in public?
I do not mind to express my emotions in public. When I was a teen, I always wanted to be in control with my emotional side (with odd outcomes), but now, I feel at ease with it, I feel more at peace.
I can laugh, but also display genuine affection, hug or kiss someone (even male friends) and feel no shame. Every day I do it anyway. The french crowd will not judge you, my country is great for that.
I can cry in public too, but since I'm chronically happy, this rarely happens. But when I'm overwhelmed by a sad emotion, I do not try to repress it.
I'm never violent, and I feel much more compassionate and sentimental than in the past.
I'm not an hyperactive, excessive extrovert, rather a quiet one, but I don't mind acting silly or playing the court jester from time to time. And when I say silly, I REALLY mean it.
Unlike a lot of xNTPs, I'm always very polite and usually quite diplomatic/empathic.
13. How do you think people saw you in high school? How do you think people see you now?
- Before my 17th birthday, I'd say a was a very arrogant teen full of myself, a clever manipulator, a skilled puppeteer who lied and cheated all the time. I was very bright, very unique, and since I was very aware of that, I liked to impress people with my intelligence and my caustic wit. My teachers were often disconcerted with my behaviour: they often said they never met any student like me in their whole career, both for good and bad.
I never was selfish though, but indeed very egocentric.
- After my 17th birthday, I quickly matured, thanks to many tragic events around me who allowed me to realize I was not the only one on earth.
I gradually stopped lying, I became quieter, I learned how to allow my emotions to go free, and my own writing style drastically changed. I became more social, more tolerant, and less aggressive. I never was "popular", but I had my fans.
- Now... Well, I feel more at peace with myself, even if nothing is perfect (and never will be). As I already said, today I relate more with NF types, while when I was a teen, I would have been a nightmare for most of them.
Many former "enemies" became my best friends ever, it's rather curious to notice this trend.
When I think about it, I find my past arrogance quite ridiculous, but even today, I can't pretend I've gotten rid of all my former flaws.
14. What do you see as the point to your life and life in general?
Has life a point?
Anyway, I'd say we're here to enjoy life as much as possible, its various gifts, to be creative, ecstatic about the beauty this world has to offer.
For me, being a better man simultaneously means understanding the mysteries of this universe as much as possible and sharing them with others.
Improving the quality of life around you is essential, both for you and others. I try to do it with my own creations. A successful life also means being aware how much relationships with our fellow men are important.
Life is both wonderful and tragic, it contains both despair and exhilaration; you should never lose hope, even when you are about to die. Life has no real meaning, but it's marvelous to be alive.
And life is very short, and very fragile.
It makes it even more valuable.