Hmm, good question. Why introversion?
OK, I'm going to try to be brutally honest with myself. Several reasons - it can be one or a combination of these in any given situation:
- A lot of human interaction feels like hard work to me, because: a) I get nervous around people. I don't say the right things and I tend to feel uncomfortable and exposed; b) I feel bored by most people and with most of the subjects of conversation, c) I have to be actively engaged in something to actually get enjoyment out of it. I can't stand it when I feel mentally unchallenged - like things aren't going anywhere. If people just keep saying things that are just plain obvious and unoriginal or the same thing over and over again in different ways (which most conversation consists of), I start figeting and losing interest fast. I'll often walk away and do something else to keep me busy if I can. I think this is the reason why, when at family gatherings, I often end up playing games with the kids
- I can't think properly without being able to be alone and to stare into space. I find the thoughts in my own head more interesting than anything else going on, on the outside. When my thoughts start to bore me, its then I go looking for conversation or read the paper, or surf the net searching for something to feed my imagination. Also I like to really immerse myself in my thoughts and sensations - to be completely carried away with them (eg. listening intently to some really amazing and moving music etc). You can't do this with people around.
- I think I like being able to control the direction of conversation and interaction. This is probably why I like the internet. I can jump around to different articles, pages, video clips, forums etc at my own whims. If an interesting subject matter comes up in coversation or someone converses in a way that actually stimulates me, I sit up, listen and respond. Otherwise, I'm mentally AWOL.
I confess, I often prefer doing things alone because I'm selfish and like having my own way. If I'm by myself there are no debates about what to do and where to go, no organization and co-ordination necessary, no need to impress or be pleasant if I don't feel in the mood, no need to endure boring or annoying activities to please another - you just go and do what you want. More than once I have asked people to go to a movie with me, not for the pleasure of their company, but because I wanted to see the movie so bad and wanted to forgo the embarrassment of going alone. Its sort of like, "shut up and stop talking to me. I just wanted to see the movie" I guess I have a problem with compromise. In my defence though, my everyday life seems to consist of nothing but constant compromise - this is what it is to be an INFP I suppose - with that in mind, who can blame me for wanting things on my terms.
EDIT: Wow, I sound like such a tosser. Just to let you all know, I'm not like this by choice. If I knew how to undo this stuff, I would.