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Thread: Testing T -ness

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    no clinkz 'til brooklyn Nocapszy's Avatar
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    i don't understand what this has to do with how T one is.
    explain yourself or confess stupidity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
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    If you were madly in love with someone, but also knew that there was no longevity in the relationship (for whatever the reason) would you keep going out with them or dump them?
    If I was looking for longevity, I would dump.

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    also, if you're madly in love with someone, it seems like the only way there'd be no longevity is if:
    a) they're not in love with you so you'd be the one getting dumped so the question doesn't apply to you
    b) you're not really in love with them so the question doesn't apply at all

    oops... you ran out of options.
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    If I somehow magically knew that there was no longevity and I looked for longevity in a relationship I'd dump because it's logical. Reason is above my feelings and I don't like to waste time.

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    I love that the T's are having trouble getting into this senario because it kind of scream in itself.

    Some possible examples (actually true life examples I know NT's have had to deal with in my life)
    Say you have been planning to travel to Asha, Austrailia and Europe for 12 months and due to leave in January, the tickets are bought and the itinary routed. You met someone in June and are really getting into them, you are madly in love, or if you don't so love - scary amount of NT's seem not.... are increadibly attracted to them, enjoy interacting with them etc etc... so on an emotional level they are great but you are going to be away for 12 months - Keep or Dump

    An alternative is that you really love a person and have been seeing them for over a year, they have to move for work reasons, their ideal job has been offered to them and they are moving to a small town in the middle of nowhere and it would have serious impact on your life if you were to move - you don't want to relocate but still love them.... Keep or Dump?

    The bigger picture do you make relationships decisions with your head or heart?

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    Don't see the alternatives as 'keep' or 'dump' if I'm, whatcha callit... madly in love, or my closest equivalent, if there's concerns over longevity.

    Not being able to be with them in the near future does not mean a relationship couldn't work, just may take time and effort. I see no need to 'dump' anyone because of distance (or similar reasons), but I wouldn't suggest I was 'keeping' them either. I'd be clear about my intentions and thoughts and expect the same in response and for as long as that was good and I still considered myself 'in love' then I'd keep working at finding a way to make it happen. If it seemed too hard then it would be because I didn't care enough to overcome difficulties.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    NT's

    If you were madly in love with someone, but also knew that there was no longevity in the relationship (for whatever the reason) would you keep going out with them or dump them?
    I feel like if I knew there was no longevity in the relationship, then I would not being going out with her in the first place.

    That was a joke by the way, but it holds true.

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    Say you have been planning to travel to Asha, Austrailia and Europe for 12 months and due to leave in January, the tickets are bought and the itinary routed. You met someone in June and are really getting into them, you are madly in love, or if you don't so love - scary amount of NT's seem not.... are increadibly attracted to them, enjoy interacting with them etc etc... so on an emotional level they are great but you are going to be away for 12 months
    Dump. I'm not going to allow someone to get in the way of my plans, especially since I place personal growth higher than romantic relationships. Plus, I'll be back after 12 months. And if they are seeing someone else when I come back, then it wasn't meant to be in the first place.

    An alternative is that you really love a person and have been seeing them for over a year, they have to move for work reasons, their ideal job has been offered to them and they are moving to a small town in the middle of nowhere and it would have serious impact on your life if you were to move - you don't want to relocate but still love them....
    Dump. I don't want to sacrifice my dreams and move for someone else. Unless I hate where I am living, then I would come. Otherwise...
    Between that cigarillo and sticking my finger down my throat to see if I could DT, I feel like puking RN.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    well, like I said, my INSTINCTIVE response is to dump.
    Why invest in something doomed to fail? It doesn't make sense to me.

    The point I raised here is something I learned within the last two years of my life, though, and I'm forty now. ... and I thought it worth mentioning just to challenge the question.
    ^^^^ My thoughts exactly. Stupid investment.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ace_ View Post
    If I somehow magically knew that there was no longevity and I looked for longevity in a relationship I'd dump because it's logical. Reason is above my feelings and I don't like to waste time.
    *can't compute* Surely that's to do with feelings? And you weigh up how good you're going to feel?
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