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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexicon View Post
    I'd have to say I prefer a sense of equality in a relationship, however due to my accomodating nature, some may conclude they've assumed a more overtly dominant role in our relationship. This is all loosely based on appearances, y'know, not the internal dynamic.


    The OP can only perceive from outside of the relationship, and appearances are just that.

    I'm a rather stubborn person in my relationships, who'll do as I see fit, when I feel it appropriate to do so, and no sooner. Displays of dominant, pressuring behaviors only serve to further solidify my stance.
    I'm the same.

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    I guessed INTP males don't want the responsibilities of the relationship. So as not to destroy their pride in being a male, they choose the equal ground stance from submissive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dynamiteninja View Post
    This is true though isn't it? :P
    It is.

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    I doubt this is true. Especially the IxFJs can be pretty dominant when they want to be.

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    I prefer equality within the relationship. I severely resent and defy being told what to do. On the other hand, if you ask me, I'll almost always do it. That's just it, I want a choice. And, I don't see that as dominance. I see dominance as subjegation.
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    Is dominant the right term? Might initiator fit better? It would to me...

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    I love to please and accommodate, but try to get dominant with me and I become . . . uncooperative. The dynamics within a relationship tend to be so complicated it can be hard to untangle the treads of domination and submission.
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    No one can have an equal relationship with anyone until you become emotionally and financially independent.

    Otherwise you are just fooling yourself.

    But so many emotionally and financially dependent people want relationships, and of course they say they want - they insist - they demand - equal relationships.

    It seems they protest too much.

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    I feel that submissive has been misunderstood here. Perhaps a better phrase would be 'more inclined to go with the flow' or 'less likely to be the initiator'. All relationships should have equality, that's not what's being asked here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dynamiteninja View Post
    I feel that submissive has been misunderstood here. Perhaps a better phrase would be 'more inclined to go with the flow' or 'less likely to be the initiator'. All relationships should have equality, that's not what's being asked here.
    Yeah, I was just about to comment on why anyone would like being a "submissive", because that word makes me think of someone going, "Get me my coffee, bitch!" And the only reason you'd enjoy that is if you're insecure, and even then you're probably just fooling yourself.

    Alright, I'm a girl, so let's see... I want to be with someone who's confident and who can be the big strong man while still respecting me as a person and not some girl to do his bidding. If the relationship is founded on true love and respect, then when a person acts as the initiator more often than another, it doesn't mean that they're more domineering and they don't give a shit about their partner's feelings. Dominant & submissive seem to only act as negative labels, basically.

    Lol, I think you should re-title your thread. The tl;dr version of my post is

    NO, WTF.
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