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  • ambitious, target/goal-oriented, need priority, try to be the BEST and number 1 success

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  • tend to be laid-back, relaxed, easy-going, carefree attitude, 'just go with the flow'

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    Want to know how to make God laugh?

    Make a plan.

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    I used to be very tightly wound (still am to a degree cuz of the cursed Ni) but that changed one day back in high school when I went in to speak to my English teacher about an assignment that I messed up. I was so anxious and worked up that I thought I was going to cry. She just smiled and started laughing which just about flipped my lid and then she said something that I don't think I could ever forget.

    "Kid, get a sense of humor. Life just isn't worth living if you can't laugh at yourself."

    And it was just that blatant. I had never had a teacher talk to me that way, and the strangest part was I knew she was right. And I left laughing my ass off for ever worrying so much about something so trivial and trite.

    Ever since then, my philosophy has been, "We all take ourselves way too seriously." And most people would now describe me as aloof and laid back. That isn't to say I don't worry constantly in my head, but at least now I can laugh about it. So I just go with the flow and let the world provide for me. And it provides lots and lots of laughs.

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    I'm very, very laid back. I don't think I've ever really had to work hard for anything. The things I'm good at, I'm effortlessly good at. The things I'm not...well, I give up on those and a find another way to do things or get them done. I used to stress myself out a lot as a kid. I would cry over bad grades, physically punish myself (lots of brain cells lost by repeatedly banging my head into the wall), feel absolutely worthless and hopeless if I was not in fact the best at the things I'm good at. My whole identity was tied up in the whole 'being good at' thing and not showing any sort of weakness to anyone. Somehow it has changed with time. I still want the things I'm good at to be done well, but I don't perceive it as an attack on my whole existence if I make a mistake or cock something up.

    ETA: It seems that life has always provided for me. It's the basic interconnectedness of all things. That really helps

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    Bit of both. I have plans and goals a-plenty, and I'm very serious about achieving them. But I believe the best way to achieve them is to be laid back and easy-going. That way I find I "achieve" an awful lot without actually having to do as much work, as a lot of it kind of falls into my lap by me being flexible enough to take advantage of opportunities that come up, and to perceive them in the first place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    If you ask and ask and ask for input and no input is forthcoming, then it's unfair to the rest of the family to sit at home all weekend every weekend because one person cannot make up their mind if they want to do anything or not.

    Sometimes delay makes a plan impossible to carry out. I don't want him to feel like he can't say no so his only option is to passively resist until the opportunity has passed or be stuck going along with something he doesn't want to do.
    You seem frustrated by something here. That much is clear. I also don't know anything about your situation, so I can't comment on that.

    But I am having a horrible time understanding your POV. I gone over your sentences a couple of times, trying to parse them.

    The only one I can make some sense of is:
    Sometimes delay makes a plan impossible to carry out.
    But the question that isn't cleared up is HOW? I can see if someone refuses to physically do something till too late, but that didn't seem to be what you were talking about--but to decide on something? What is wrong with deciding yourself?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ygolo View Post
    You seem frustrated by something here. That much is clear. I also don't know anything about your situation, so I can't comment on that.

    But I am having a horrible time understanding your POV. I gone over your sentences a couple of times, trying to parse them.

    The only one I can make some sense of is:

    But the question that isn't cleared up is HOW? I can see if someone refuses to physically do something till too late, but that didn't seem to be what you were talking about--but to decide on something? What is wrong with deciding yourself?
    Because if he wants to do something, I want to be considerate and include him in the plans. It's only fair. If he does not, that is fine. I just need to know what he wants so I can either do what he wants or plan around it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    Because if he wants to do something, I want to be considerate and include him in the plans. It's only fair. If he does not, that is fine. I just need to know what he wants so I can either do what he wants or plan around it.
    This is begining to sound like a cycle of
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    "I don't know. What do you want to do?"
    "I don't know. What do you want to do?"
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    I am familar with that cycle. I've been in them myself. I don't want to say anything because I don't have any strong preferences and will basically go along with whatever people decide (or not if I don't like it), and the people deciding want my input.

    I then have to options:
    1. Make up something just to give an answer (even though I don't really want to do it).
    2. Or let the other decide w/o my input and either decide to go along or not later


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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    If you ask and ask and ask for input and no input is forthcoming, then it's unfair to the rest of the family to sit at home all weekend every weekend because one person cannot make up their mind if they want to do anything or not.

    Sometimes delay makes a plan impossible to carry out. I don't want him to feel like he can't say no so his only option is to passively resist until the opportunity has passed or be stuck going along with something he doesn't want to do.
    You didn't say; if you go ahead and make plans, does your husband usually join you?

    I am reminded of one example of how we used to deal with my father - ENTP.
    My mother would be preparing a light lunch or snack and she would tell my father what she was doing, and ask him if he wanted any.
    He would always say no.
    Invariably, when the food was ready, he would want some!
    Of course, his portion would cut into our portions, or my mother would have to fire the stove back up for him - actually he would get our share, and we would have to wait for the second time around.

    After he did that to us a few times, we got smart.
    We made him some anyway, even if he said he didn't want any.
    He always ended up having some.

    Very strange behavior.

    My husband is a P.
    We never make plans to go anywhere or do anything.
    He prefers if I'm just spontaneous; it's more fun for him that way.
    But I like having something to look forward to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTJMom View Post
    You didn't say; if you go ahead and make plans, does your husband usually join you?
    It isn't quite 50/50 that he will. It just depends what it is and if he's feeling froggy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    Want to know how to make God laugh? Make a plan.
    What if you plan to make God laugh?

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