If you are unaware of what type is your dual, freeze your "P/J" and reverse all of the other letters in your type.
ENFp >< ISTp
INTj >< ESFj
I am referring to socionics here, and socionic types do not cleanly translate into MBTI types. However, both theories were designed with the original 16 types in mind, and they are the same the majority of the time. If you think that you are a clear, strong representative of your MBTI type, you are probably the same socionics type. From Socionics.com:
"Dual partners are like two halves of a whole unit. They usually understand each others intentions without any need to say a word. A Dual will naturally protect your weak points and appreciate the strong ones without asking for anything in return. Interaction with your Dual allows you to be yourself without the need to adjust to your partner like in other relations. This often saves both partners a lot of energy which they can use for their own interesting activities. Conflicts between Duals are very rare and if there are any, they are normally short lived and solved without pain. Your Dual partner will love you just for what you are and if there is such a thing as true love then it could probably only occur in relations of Duality."
Tell me what conclusions you have gathered about relationships of duality from your own personal experiences. I want to know how you have felt about duals in your life, and what you appreciate about them.
I will start by saying that while I am captivated by several types for different reasons, my dual relationships with ISTPs (of which one has been romantic) have been the most simple and natural. I'm an extreme N, and almost all S's, respectable communicators in their own merit, are incapable of meeting me on my own level for any extended period of time. I am no better at curbing my own style. As a result of our inability to communicate with eachother effectively, S's and I do not speak with eachother, and virtually all of my friends are N's. Such a small amount of what I actually say is useful in itself that anyone unwilling to take in my statements through a 'conceptual grid' becomes so bored with my ruminations and abstractions so quickly that building a complex relationship with them would be all but impossible.
ISTP's are the exception. They exhibit all qualities typical to S's, yet they share a quality that gives them the impression of being something other than an S to me, namely that they can easily take in and analyze every thought I want to convey, no matter how abstract, provided they are not too long-winded. For this, I am so appreciative of the ISTP type - they really are the "other half" of a mind like mine, and they are so in a way that is utterly attractive. There really is something special about the ENFP/ISTP dynamic I have noticed. SP's really live (emphasis on live) an interesting way, and were it not for the ISTP's, their entire way of life would be lost on me.
Tell me what you think