I have said before that Fi feels like a mirror to me. I mirror what the other person feels. If I feel thier pain I am obliged to help them to make my pain go away. So if I project emo signals of pain and the other party doesn't seem to be mirroring back-perhaps it signals to my brain I need to project more loudly-actually vocalize my discomfort? When in reality Fe may be perceiving discomfort, and trying to help, but the signals the Fe user projects back to me aren't "Fi correct", dont resolve my pain, so I don't perceive them properly? Thus endless cycles of guilt spring up between the two parties, with neiether feeling like thier signal has been properly responded to.
This same miscommunication with an entp and tert Fe left me kind of heartbroken for awhile as I misunderstood the intent.
Yet I get crazy amounts of shit done and everybody will bend over backwards to help me push things through our systems. They all seem to, well, love me? However there are very few Fe doms around-almost all INTPs, ENTPs, INTJs, ISTJs, with a smatterring of other types sprinkled in.
Also notice I have brought the entire conversation back to me and my subjective view. I know I do this and when I try not to, the "tap" goes dry. It becomes hard to find words to say. I dont understand why... I am trying to imrpove on this. I cold just be selfish. Perhaps Ne plays a role.
I also incorrectly perceive that Fe doms are making judgements about me when they make broad sweeping statements. It "feels" like you are judging society at large when you make a statement, thus I can't help but feel like I have failed a societal test of some sort.
I REALLY think there is a true communication issue here. It goes past Fi/Fe trying to manipulate each other. It is very unintentional on both sides. It is about verbal and nonverbal signals being sent and received. It is also about expectations and deliverables that each excepts when the emit/receive those signals. The coding is incorrect and we are not properly perceieving the intent of the sender it seems. Then we respond inaccurately.