I've recently come to the conclusion that I suck at being nice and considerate. I'm well adept at extraverted judgment and external ideals, but only those that align with my extraverted thinking. I only take into consideration how people might feel when I think about what I'm going to say and the potential response I might get. I then filter myself if the potential response is something I do not want to deal with.
I just don't see the point in socializing in person just for the sake of socializing. It's much easier online to just talk to people, but it's so much more difficult in real life because I think of it in terms of cause and effect, thinking strategically rather than personally. I've confirmed with a handful of people at work recently that they think I'm mean, mainly because I'm either too blunt, sarcastic or unwilling to help people if they don't necessarily need the help.
Do other Te users face this problem? How do you fix it? Any advice from you FJs?