Conflict frequency: infrequent
Reason: Generally have similar perspectives. Socially, we tend to debate a lot -- it's good practice, plus it's enjoyable to defend a position in a friendly atmosphere. Makes for great opportunity to advance personal philosophies.
Force of conflicts: good-natured
Reason: I'm not interested in ostracizing a parent over gaps in ideology. It's rare for an issue to arise that would sufficiently test the mettle of this mutual commitment.
Efficiency when working together: sufficient
Reason: Outside of family get-togethers, we don't really collaborate on group projects.
Succesful strategies: See above.
Unsuccessful strategies: Taking friendly debates personally. He gets enraged; I become mean-spirited.
Conflict frequency: often
Reason: Vast philosophical differences in lifestyle.
Force of conflicts: profound
Reason: Not really worth getting into.
Notes: Exceptionally smart. Very self-motivated. Destructive.
Younger brother: IsFP:
Good fellow; yet, lazy and lacks ambition. His lack of credentials has stunted employment opportunities, which has made for a rocky relationship with our father.
Great Type pairing with INTJ. Sometimes the NJ urgency makes it difficult to see eye-to-eye on SP issues.
Brothers-in-law: ESTP; ENTJ
Couldn't ask for a better matchup.
Best friend: INTJ:
Known since I was a kid. Highly intelligent. Somewhat linear religious perspective creates artificial distances.
12-31-2008, 09:27 AM #161
12-31-2008, 09:40 AM #162
Mom: INFJ - we get along very well for the most part. We're extremely similar and she knows me probably better than anyone. She's always been there for me and pretty much saved my life on multiple occasions. However, the T-F thing is definitely there. She doesn't always make sense, and she's devoted to fixing everyone she meets (including me). I sometimes say things that hurt her feelings without knowing and she'll ignore it and then two months later she starts yelling about it. This hasn't happened so much lately, though. I try to be good.
Stepfather: ESTJ - This doesn't work. Vicious cycle of nastiness. He speaks to me like I'm a complete idiot, I rip his logic to shreds in the worst way I can think of. He has an obsession with household chores. They fascinate him. What those two see in each other is a great mystery of life. I guess he's dependable and she likes his sense of humor.
Sister: ESFJ - She's a lot younger than me so there was never much 'rivalry'. She has this sort of instant charm thing --- people who see her immediately adore her. Whenever we have the opportunity to do something fabulous like go to Italy, she complains that she will miss the dogs and cats too much. She and my mom go from over-the-top (from my perspective) Fe expressions of love to screaming, crying hatred every other day. I sort of mediate. Her father ^ understands her better than anyone else in the family. I do love her, but she thinks I hate her.
12-31-2008, 11:35 AM #163
As it looks. N's seems to really dislike the SJ's.
12-31-2008, 11:39 AM #164
12-31-2008, 12:02 PM #165
I'm not saying it's a rule, just that there's a correlation.
edit: the strength of the S\N could also have a role.
I mean, i have an isfp sister. she's not SJ, and is smart. Yet she's totally blind to some concepts, unable to see potential when at the same intelligence level an N would get excited\curious at least.
Yet she's working in a scientific environnement. It's a really different approach to the world that can be frustrating for an N and lead to communication problems.
I never really clash with her but I know i'd go crazy if i had to face her view of life everyday. It's like she doesn't see half of what's under her nose and will get overly interested in that one little and incomplete part.Expression of the post modern paradox : "For the love of god, religions are so full of shit"
Theory is always superseded by Fact...
... In theory.
“I’d hate to die twice. It’s so boring.”
Richard Feynman's last recorded words
"Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart."
Mencius (Meng-Tse), 4th century BCE
12-31-2008, 12:21 PM #166
12-31-2008, 12:27 PM #167
Merged threads.Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
Interpersonal Communication Theories and Concepts
Social Penetration Theory 1
Social Penetration Theory 2
Social Penetration Theory 3
12-31-2008, 12:33 PM #168
12-31-2008, 01:16 PM #169
12-31-2008, 01:19 PM #170
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