When I'm around females, I turn super-manly and go into "alpha-female" mode. It makes me want to organize things.
i know a female enfp who kind of acts like the "champion" of women when around other women i guess similar to what you're describing.
when she's hanging out w/ mostly guys she basically acts like a guy being just as vulgar or even being more so just for laughs. she's pretty hilarious, one of the few people i'm comfortable being playful with.
Generalizations I do not like about INTPs? That we are:
1. Cold / Don't care about people.
2. Don't have emotions / are machines.
3. Don't live in the "real" world.
4. Don't have any "common sense."
To some degree, those things are true about me. They're stereotypes, but they are somewhat rooted in reality, I think.
I differ from INTPs in that, when I'm with people I like, I'm talkative. I still prefer solitude, and my social time is small, I can be somewhat outgoing when I do socialize. This, I think, is the difference between Introversion and shyness.
"Having is not such a pleasing thing as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true." --Spock
ISTJs are notorious for being neat and organized yet I am extremely messy/disorganized.
We supposedly don't like people who are "different", but I find quirky/eccentric people to be intriguing. (What I dislike is when people act loud or obnoxious in inappropriate places.)
We are supposed to be traditional when it comes to holidays and domestic roles...not me (although I can see this changing once I have kids of my own). It's just not practical to go through all that trouble at this point in my life
I probably use Se more than the average INFJ. I blame it on the Se people closest to me. I'm extremely active and a litttttle bit competitive (okay, more than a little bit). I actually don't own a car & ENJOY it because I get at least 3 miles of walking daily out of necessity and I can add that exercise to my normal workouts. I'm a bit health & fitness minded like most Se people I know. However, it's a toss up if Se is driving that or if it's a target of that nasty Ni perfectionism.
I'm totally not manipulative like the INFJ negative stereotype. I'm controlling over myself, but not other people.
Also, and I think this is actually typical of INFJs, I don't feel like I display irrational emotion as readily as most F types. I sometimes get a bit offended at descriptions of a "typical F" because I don't feel it describes me. This may or may not be why my T/F score tends to be close.
Like Jennifer I find myself differing from the type description of an INTP.
I also harbour some discontent with the typical view of an INTP.
I am quite a lot different from the typical expectations of an INTP in that I am social, I have some skill in interaction and I'm not a floating brain with no concept of emotion.
Being a 9 also seems to make a whole hell of a difference in that I'm no where near as likely to get defensive and retreat at 100mph. Probe all you like and all you'll find is answer and questions not some deep dark cave where I hide.