The issue is if you avoid people entirely - ie: the examples show people who are avoidant. If you feel like the world is out to get you because someone says hi... that's an issue. However, if your friends expect you to go out every single night, all the time, to parties with lots of people... that's not an issue.Sure, I force myself to be around people if I am not up to it and the situation demands it but it doesn't really change the introversion. I don't "grow" into being less introverted just sometimes have to work around it.
As someone who had this as a child - badly, to say the least - I grew out of it. I'm no less drained and I do find it irritating... but I've learnt not to shell myself in either. Really, I know how this conversation goes... I say I'm very introverted. The other person says I can't be that introverted because I'm not like that. I say that I learnt it. The other person says it can't be learnt. I say that I did it. They say...I don't feel anxious about being around people, I do often feel irked at having to put up with their reactions to me. The usual "You are so quiet", "Are you depressed?" "lighten up!" and the other stock comments. People are draining anyway and when they have to be like this, even more so. I highly prefer being around other introverts to avoid this in my private life. It gets really old to have to keep re-explaing and re-justifying one's self to others. The "suspicion" thing about my more reclusive times also gets really old. Both of these things just make me want to withdraw from the situation just as soon as I can.
The problem is that introversion here is just a catch all phrase for "unable to deal with people". I'm about as introverted as one can be. I've overcome it as much as I probably can and I'm still quite bad. I'm clearly on the unhealthy side - it didn't take my parents or the psychologist to tell me that.
The message I want to give is that it can be handled, if one is willing to try to do it. I had to force myself to go out and sell tickets. I had to force myself to talk to people at work. I had to force myself to go out with friends or have them over.
We do have rational concious control over ourselves and our environment - and these things shape up.
(I will, however, say that it is easier to do for me because I'm not as "neurotic" as most of the population. Heightened negative emotions can make this harder to deal with. At the same time, very very little of the population is as introverted as I am.)
I'm not going to argue against introverts accepting who they are. I just find that "acceptance" is the same as "excusism" for too many things.
That one is a bit of a middle ground. However, I do have someone like that. I'll say hi, and they'll ignore me. And everyone else. Sorry, that's not healthy. I may not say hi to everyone I pass by in my apartment, but I'd never ignore someone.But again with say the last item in the list, if the professor wants to be secretive about the minute details of his private life and he is happy with this, why is it necessarily "unhealthy?"
I bet that he thinks that if he says hi, he'll have to make... egad... small talk. It's rather unfair for that nasty outside world to impose on that introvert... :rolli:
At a certain point, yes. It is not healthy to shut out external contact.If the introverted couple are not unhappy with their limited social life, can it really be said to be unhealthy?
What people? The first example you mentioned couldbe seen as exactly the opposite, while the other one don't even have "other people" on their radar.If these people are kind to others and can support themselves through work in our society, why should they be treated as if they are defective.