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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    I don't like crowds, unless I'm the center of attention.
    Being the center of attention in real life would be like my worst nightmare...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blackwater View Post
    repressed E's gain momentum as they hear themselves talk, free associating while their word is out in the open


    true I's need miniature pockets of I-time when confronted with difficult questions, even if they just came from solitude.
    I think you've created a false dichotomy here... I do both of those. But I know I'm an introvert. I'm just not an extreme introvert.

    Maybe it's to do with Te, though? When others set me up on an idea, sometimes I get really excited b/c it kickstarts my Ni with a fully open valve of Te... and crazy ideas get linked together (Ni), and my Te just flies to share them with other people. I need the correct stimulation, though. Tends to be ENXX
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sahara View Post
    See, if it wasn't for message boards I would unbelievably lonely. When the tests asked me if I could live as a hermit I answered yes, but only because I no longer trust people, if I still had my former trust and optimism and if I had answered that question 10yrs ago, I would have said no way.

    I find too much company over very long periods to be draining, and need time alone, but when I still wanted friends I couldn't go too long without company, I would always be out socialising, I mean always.

    I really wonder if my current introversion is based more on my islamic marriage in which introversion is a muslim womans expected attitude. Prior to that it was very rare that I chose to be alone, even if it meant hanging out with people that I found annoying just as long as I was with people doing stuff.

    Being alone now is because I just don't like people as much anymore, yet I still constantly reach out across the net for contact.

    What do you think?

    EDIT: I score 57% introversion if that helps.
    I think:

    Humans are social beings. Although it's possible to score 100% I on a personality test, I would hypothesize that anyone who is TRULY 100% introverted is clinically crazy. (And that goes the same for 100% E)

    It's also been my experience that humans need meaningful exchange... even moreso if you're NF, I'd bet. (NFs cannot not be personal? PUMII?)
    I feel the need for meaningful exchange, when I don't get it I get lonely. And I'm an INT.

    I think there may be a feminine aspect, as well. I really think a female needs this more than males. So, even a very introverted female (especially the NFs) would need meaningful exchange.

    I don't think I can answer if you're an I or E, but I do think regardless you need to take the risks and get out there and find some friends. You don't need huge amounts, but you need real friends. I've done the "hole up and avoid social contact" thing for a full year (just choosing not to see my friends, to the point when no one contacted me b/c I'd just say I was "busy") and in retrospect, I was mildly depressed because of it.
    My whole life was stagnated because I wasn't meaningfully interacting with others. You need this--go out and do it.

    Yeah, you might get burned again.

    But I don't think you can risk not doing this... I'd venture to guess that by choosing to not get burned, in the long run it's far more painful to be lonely.

    (I also think loneliness is pretty common among females in general... even extraverted ones!)

    Your life will be more full if you go out and make friends again.
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    I think the whole feeling lonely thing is not the same as gathering energy from being around others. I do not think being lonely is the same as wanting to be around people to energize. Feeling anti-social is also not the same as needing time alone to recharge.

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    I don't even understand what it means to gain energy from socializing. That defies the laws of physics. EVERYONE gets tired when they socialize. People might tire at different rates, but no one starts out exhausted, then feels refreshed after socializing. I just don't buy into this concept. As an extrovert, I certainly enjoy socializing, but I have limits. Eventually I get tired.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    ...no one starts out exhausted, then feels refreshed after socializing.
    You need to meet my brother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mycroft View Post
    For the personality matrices buffs out there (and anyone else interested in speculating), something I've wondered about: how would you distinguish between an introvert and a repressed extravert?
    Well you have to get to know the person fairly well first.

    I was a repressed extravert for much of my life though. I'd spend lots of time alone and get depressed, but because I am not particularly reflective I didn't realize that I was an extravert for quite a while. I was a senior in college before I came to the realization that I actually feel a lot better when I am with people, compared to when I am by myself.

    Before I realized I was an extravert though I'd often like to go to hang out at public places by myself. I think it was nice just to be around people. I might walk around the mall, or just sit in the food court and watch all the people. I went to see a lot of movies by myself too.

    So I think the ultimate test to see if someone is an extravert or introvert is to let them set up their ideal social situation where they would feel the most comfortable. An extravert would probably describe a situation where many of their friends were together with them, while an introvert would prefer to be with one or two at a time (even if they have a lot of friends and have trouble deciding who the one or two are).

    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus
    I don't even understand what it means to gain energy from socializing. That defies the laws of physics. EVERYONE gets tired when they socialize. People might tire at different rates, but no one starts out exhausted, then feels refreshed after socializing. I just don't buy into this concept. As an extrovert, I certainly enjoy socializing, but I have limits. Eventually I get tired.
    I might get tired physically, but mentally or emotionally I feel energized being in a crowd. My mind becomes more focused, and if I am in a heavy social situation for a long time it can be something of an adrenaline rush. It's kind of like exercise. Sure technically it tires you out, but at the same time it gets you going and makes you feel like you have more energy.
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    It seems everyone here is an Extravert, then. Am I the only one who doesn't have friends (I mean, other than Internet)?

    I'm with Lateralus, I have no idea what being "energized" is. At times, I can be extremely energetic and hyper. Sometimes, I just like listening to myself talk. But do I like being around people is a whole different story.

    E and I seems to have much more to do with energy expenditure or conservation than sociability. Remember, it's directing energy either outward or inward.

    In addition to an I preference, I'd assume a lot of sociability has to do with the N preference, which sort of lessens the desire for the concreteness here-and-now nature of social activity. Honestly, social activity requires so much attention to detail that it's ultimately tiresome.

    But sometimes I wonder if I actually am an Introvert -- a lot of people perceive me as very energetic and exuberant. But family members perceive me as rather quiet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    It seems everyone here is an Extravert, then. Am I the only one who doesn't have friends (I mean, other than Internet)?
    Actually, no. I have no friends outside of the internet, although I have a few acquaintances from high school I worked on projects with, but didn't bother to keep up with because I was too different from them. I talk to family members occasionally, but they don't usually understand me either. I like getting sympathy and encouragement occasionally, though once I've gotten that I prefer to withdraw again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    It seems everyone here is an Extravert, then. Am I the only one who doesn't have friends (I mean, other than Internet)?
    I work with people, I deal with people. I have no real life friends here at all, I don't know the names of any of my neighbors, and I've never said a thing to any of them. I have two people I would consider friends that are not primarily through the internet, and they live somewhere else. Online, I count about seven people as friends.
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