Okay. This may possibly be the most shallow heading ever posted to mbticentral.
Nevertheless, I will continue. This has many angles. Please indulge me, though, I'll be appreciative
I need an entire new wardrobe. I was the typical INTJ female throughout high school (read: wore hand-me-downs from aunts/cousins/friends... and most of it was the ugly stuff they didn't want to wear anymore just so I could avoid shopping).
Now, I'm almost 21 and only recently began to take some pride in how I look. I don't feel the need to keep up with fashion, I don't feel that I need to be validated from others (which the title of this thread may imply).
In truth, I just need to find clothing that I am comfortable
a) physically wearing
b) presenting myself to others in, and
c) being myself in.*
*This is where attracting this INTJ comes in. I mostly want to wear things that really reflect who I am: low-maintenance, but competent, I don't follow the crowd.... I don't want to dress slutty, obviously. Tasteful and respectful.
So. This is my question. How do I do that as a 21 year old female? I'm 5'7", 120 lbs (which means I'm about as skinny as it gets while still being curvy enough... I have that athletic chick body type)
What specifically do I wear to not come off as immature/slutty/etc but yet still come off as taking pride to some extent in my physical appearance?
What is unattractive on a 21 year old female? I'm just being honest in saying I have a pretty rockin' body at the moment (that I take care of by eating healthy and exercising) and want to know how to dress properly. It seems to me most things marketed toward me have the attitude of sex-symbol and I don't know how or where to look to find the good stuff (or sometimes even what to avoid).
Blunt male opinions welcome, blunt female opinions welcome!