If it will make you feel any better, I'm willing to acknowledge that every personality type has its nickle-and-dime rip-offs. None of us keeps 100 percent true to our most positive aspects. There's a lot of leeway for individual characteristics to shade over into negative characteristics when exhibited in real life, with real-life stresses and dramas.
But FWIW, I'm probably older than most posters and I routinely see how all the personality types work themselves out later in life. Young people within any personality type tend to still be getting their act together. Older people, by contrast, will have smoothed off the rough edges and gotten their routine down pat.
And ENFJs, in fact, tend to be pretty delightful people as they get older (IMO, of course). As I mentioned earlier, I have a somewhat more mixed opinion of ENFPs. But I count a couple of them as friends as well, and I find it easy enough to discount their quirks and enjoy their ample positive qualities.