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    darkened dreams labyrinthine's Avatar
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    Default How is your type misunderstood?

    In what ways do you find yourself and/or your MBTI type most commonly misunderstood? I suggest you include links and quotes to verify the MBTI trait you mention just to keep things consistent. Personal traits should also be noted as such. This is just a suggestion to keep things from veering into unfounded assumptions to add to the confusion.

    Areas of misunderstanding often include:
    What people mistakenly read into your comments
    What people assume about your character
    What people assume about your abilities
    How people interpret your actions
    In general, how people are most critical of you based on your type.
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    People frequently think that we:

    1. are arrogant
    2. don't listen to people's opinions

    ,when in fact:

    1. our lack of social confidence mixed with our social confidence causes us to appear this way
    2. we use our N to dismiss stupid stuff before we finish hearing it
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    than to serve and obey them. - David Hume

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    Good thread. But far too much effort to dig out quotes and links, although it is nice to see an attempt at some form of evidential rigour. I will absolve myself of guilt by stating simply that I know I could find evidence of most of the thoughts listed below, if only I could be bothered.

    What people mistakenly read into your comments - that they're literal, or that I'm not aware of the (intentional) irony inherent in what is said/posted. This is a cardinal sin.

    What people assume about your character - No idea. Bookish? Computer-literate? Cold, analytical, uncaring, unable to gauge the emotions of others and adapt communication styles accordingly, unwilling to take the points of others onboard? Overly defensive when challenged? Intelligent, theoretical, lacking in practical skills (including social skills?).

    How people interpret your actions - literally, I imagine. Which would be a mistake.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Metamorphosis View Post
    People frequently think that we:

    1. are arrogant
    2. don't listen to people's opinions

    ,when in fact:

    1. our lack of social confidence mixed with our social confidence causes us to appear this way
    2. we use our N to dismiss stupid stuff before we finish hearing it
    I think we disagree on less than 80 percent.

    People think I'm:

    1. Insane because I look at things from a different (yet logical) perspective.
    2. Impatient.
    3. Stubborn (when in actuality, I just know what I want).
    4. Insensitive (though I don't take comments about me up the ass).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    I think we disagree on less than 80 percent.
    True. I exaggerated and really didn't intend it to seem like a bad thing, eventhough it probably came off that way.
    "You will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit."

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    than to serve and obey them. - David Hume

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    I've had people assume I don't like them due to the introversion or "head in the clouds" aspects.

    Quoting from the Personality Page profile:
    The INTP is likely to be very shy when it comes to meeting new people. On the other hand, the INTP is very self-confident and gregarious around people they know well, or when discussing theories which they fully understand.
    When my current manager (who I think is ESFP) first took over the department, she thought I hated her. She saw me be loud and boisterous around others then be detached and impersonal when interacting with her. She thought the difference in behavior was because I didn't like her.

    As for the "head in the clouds" bit, there have been times when I'm walking down the hall lost in thought and not notice people speaking to me. I just keep walking oblivious to anyone trying to get my attention.

    I did, though, have someone interpret the introversion in a different, and quite humorous way. I'm very much not a morning person, so I can be much more anti-social early in the day. She was the morning receptionist at the time and would greet me as I came in. I would give a slight nod of acknowledgment, but keep walking. I never stopped to chat nor gave a cheerful good morning in reply. So she assumed I was a mute. The first time she heard me talk was nearly six months after I had started working here.

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    When I think I'm right I can be very confident and uncompromising, which leads people to think I'm arrogant or stubborn or impatient or whatever. I'm also quite prone to ironic comments, which leads people to think I'm mean or simply weird. People thinking I'm weird is not a misperception, though.

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    People think because I am independent and self assured I don't have feelings. My tendancy to see speak about things that I know using declaratory terms can cause people to think I'm arrogant; I'm not, I just *know* in this case. When I don't know, I don't. Also, I like to live with an idea before I act on it, if you ask me do I want to go here, or do this, I need to think about it, get used to the idea, work it into the things I already had in my head up to that point you mentioned it - this makes people think I'm antisocial, when really I just have so much going on inside, I need to reflect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Metamorphosis View Post
    True. I exaggerated and really didn't intend it to seem like a bad thing, eventhough it probably came off that way.
    I really don't care if others disagree with me. In fact, it actually gives me a sense of self-pride knowing that I have a different perspective!

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    It is both interesting and kinda cool that this thread is currently rather flooded with INTJs. Very interesting...

    (actually INTs are often misunderstood and possibly the Js a little moreso?)
    Step into my metaphysical room of mirrors.
    Fear of reality creates myopic morality
    So I guess it means there is trouble until the robins come
    (from Blue Velvet)

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