2) I think I admire different things in different people. I think there are a lot of good qualities that people can have but I don't know if I'd say I admire it. Like honesty. Great trait. Like to hang w/people who are honest but that shouldn't be so hard. Not saying it can't be difficult to speak with tact but to say "this guy doesn't cheat on his taxes, he he tells his wife when he goes out drinking with the guys, blah, blah, blah," That's fine but not necessarily impressive to me.
I like people who don't give up. Who just try. Those who when they may even know things might not end perfectly but they are still willing to set out anyway - I'm touched by that.
3). selfishness - that's generally the root of a lot of despicable behavior.