Cutting your losses

[anii]

I used to carry torches and nurse grudges. Not so much these days.

 

[Lymitra]

I'm an odd combination. I'm endlessly forgiving, I give people I let into my life lots of chances, but once they pass the point of no return, I can walk away and never look back.

Same.
I should learn to be smarter about my forgiveness though because I am literally endlessly forgiving; it takes a LOT for me to want to cut someone from my life and not see them anymore. Meanwhile, I continue to let things pass, and I suffer, again and again.

 

[Dwigie]

It's pretty interesting to read this.
I tend to have a memory stained with emotions and unfortunately a knack for "seeing things in others".
I basically live believing that over 90% of the things in life are subject to loss and are only temporary. So I do cling on to everything around me, whatever they are.
but at times I wanna protect myself and whenever someone gets to close, the prospect of losing them or it makes me accelerate the process. It doesn't seem to make sense I know but...
It's kind of being torn between" take full advantage while it's there!" and "What's the point if it's going to end anyways?".
I'm a big grudge holder, sometimes I decide to save myself from the obsession and simply "get out while it's not too deep yet".
I'm basically a coward in love.
But I'm very resilient emotionally when it comes to losing people or big events etc...
I'd say I do cut my losses in most cases.

 

[speculative]

I have a hard time "cutting my losses" in many instances. It is very difficult, but I am learning to do it. Just this Thursday something happened that really would have bothered me, but I realized if that's the other person's problem so be it - it's not my problem anymore...

 

[cascadeco]

I think I'm pretty good at cutting losses. I definitely give plenty of room for benefit of the doubt and getting to know the person, but once I realize it's just not going anywhere, or isn't gonna work, I can cut off pretty easily. I've just decided over time that if a relationship is not mutually beneficial to both parties, there isn't much purpose in continuing the relationship. So if one person is getting a whole lot more out of the relationship than the other, or one is really having to flex a lot just to keep the relationship alive, then it isn't positive overall.

In a few cases - typically romantic - it CAN take me a while to internally reach a point where I've accepted it and cease to have hope -- Even though externally I ended it with the person, or the other ended it with me.