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    Plumage and Moult proteanmix's Avatar
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    Default FJs: What are your relationships like with other FJs?

    1. How much time do you spend interacting other FJs? Is it forced or by choice?
    2. What is the nature of interaction (family, friend, classmate, coworker, etc.)?
    3. How do you spend your time together? (coffee klatsching? activity based?)
    4. What do you enjoy/dislike about your relationship?
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    How much time do you spend interacting other FJs? Is it forced or by choice?
    Both
    What is the nature of interaction (family, friend, classmate, coworker, etc.)?
    2 Family, and 1 friend who used to be a classmate

    How do you spend your time together? (coffee klatsching? activity based?)
    All of have done pretty much everything together.
    What do you enjoy/dislike about your relationship?
    I like the consideration, and never having to feel as if I'm not cared for...

    I hate the talking, to much of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    How much time do you spend interacting other FJs? Is it forced or by choice?
    I have a close ESFJ
    friend that I'd love to see more of (it's only every other week or so) and an ENFJ sis in law that I see once a month. So not all that much time.
    What is the nature of interaction (family, friend, classmate, coworker, etc.)?
    See above. I also have a co-board member, we're actually coleaders of a volunteer board and we talk by phone at least twice amonth.
    How do you spend your time together? (coffee klatsching? activity based?)
    The ESFJ and I are part of a prayer group that we "founded" almost 15 years ago. We also shop, celebrate birthdays, organize women's weekends...she's my personal shopper and conscience! ENFJ--family time is game time and we're both always at the game tables. We also talk children and cooking.
    What do you enjoy/dislike about your relationship?
    ESFJ--we can and do tell each other everything and support each other in so many ways. She's also a rollicking good time. It isn't type specific, but rather we're so at the same stage of life and have been since we first met pregnant on the city bus coming home from work. ENFJ...I have trouble sometimes knowing when she's sincere and I've found that with a lot of ENFJs. I don't think that it's that they are insincere but rather that I have trouble reading their Fe because it's so natural for them and a bit more of a stretch for me.
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    I have three FJs in my life right now. I am sad that I don't get to spend more time with two of them. The other, I would spend more time with if I had a less demanding personal life.

    Two are friends. One is family.

    Right now, due to distance or other obligations, we mostly talk on the phone. I also spend a decent amount of time playing WoW with one.

    I enjoy the similar ways in which we value our relationships with others. Beyond that, each of my FJ friends are pretty different from one another. One makes impractical decisions and doesn't seem to respect my time. One thinks I make impractical (and immoral) decisions and doesn't think I respect her time. (Does that make me a pot or a kettle? ) One lives too darn far away.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
    ~ John Rogers

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