I find that when telling someone they're beautiful, or in giving a "heart-felt" affirmation or the like, that I'm somehow embarassing myself. I don't know if I just feel like it's opening myself up to criticism or what. With a girl I have a crush on, I have a tendency to appear coy, with intermittent sarcasm. The girl usually knows I'm flirting with her and returns the gesture in kind, but this engenders more sarcasm and doesn't facilitate romance.
While I feel this is probably normal for an ENTJ, I'm desperately trying to figure out how I can be more comfortable in my role as a feeler. It's not that I want to change, that would be both impossible and disingenuous. I want a mind mate, yet the problem I'm seeing is that these "mind mates" have the same problems I do with being tender. It's as if, by being sarcastic, we can say to someone "read between the lines," though no true sentiments are ever stated.
I wish everyone was on board with MBTI so we could work with eachothers' strengths and weaknesses.