*named Cases of applied MBTI being helpful - collect them! before. Damned, what does it take to write an interesting title?
So, I'll start.
I'm telling how finding out my girlfriend's type helped her to find a depressed function, which she now more readily utilizes, and how it helped me to understand her needs better. We're both enjoying about it all now.
So I had a long lasting communication problem in the relationship with my girlfriend. She was happy about being silent for long periods of time, and she struggled finding the right words. She also hated to respond right away; she rather responded after few days, unless it was a trivial matter. Much of her spontaneous talk seemed to circle around good pieces of information she had learned (ISTP? INTP?) , which was interesting, and spontaneous criticism (my shirt doesn not look good, I made an error in word, etc), which I didn't take that well, especially if that was all she spoke. I was seeking to find a method of communication that would have been more interesting for her, to get her open up a bit.
She tested out as an INTP, and I started remembering some times when she had been less inhibited in a way natural for that type. I figured it was some Ne going on. We talked about function theory and she told having been discouraged to talk as a kid. Not having had much opportunity for talk at home, she had developed a non-communicative, independent thinking style for herself. I told her about the nice vibes of Ne I had read from her, how she really seemed to light up with all that. She seemed to be noticeably smart, fast and fun whenever she got to that mood.
Sadly, a few days after we had a fight. I ended up mocking her for some bad INTP traits I hated in her, mainly getting in an information-gathering and thinking loop and distancing herself from the situation, even though she was right there with me! (forgive me, MBTI gods!)
I was thinking our relationship was worthless as ever, but she texted me; she had open some kind of a door of opportunity and felt open to talk. I was surprised how our confrontation had any redeeming qualities. I remembered reading something from the INTP description.. they often believe their communication be of extreme importance, so I arranged an extra day off work which we spent together. I relaxed the time a lot, arranged things to do in a much more independent manner, listened to her much longer and in the end, we had had great time, and I felt real connection to her.. first time for, .. weeks.
I noticed I had loosened up from my ENTJ ways a lot. I focused on ways which an ENTJ might do wrong for an INTP, and I found my ways weren't always the best for maintaining a good relationship. I had usually rushed to the next thing.. but it stopped her line of thinking, contributing to the said Ti loop. So, both of us found things to develop.
We both enjoy our strengthened relationship at the moment.