In order to facilitate a deeper understanding our own and each others' "buttons," I decided to make a survey. Feel free to skip questions you don't want to answer.
0a)What do you believe is your MBTI type?
0b)What is your age?
1)Who are some people you admire and try to emulate? Why do you want to emulate them? Why do you believe you can?
2)Who (other than your actual father and mother) has acted in a role of nurturing you and helping you grow as a person? What did these people do you found helpful? What did they do that you felt was overprotective?
3)At the times you act like a spoiled brat, how does it manifest? What do you do? What do you avoid doing? What are your thoughts and emotions like at these moments? What triggers you to become childish? How can you regulate or work with your childish nature?
4)Think about worlds, cliques, or groups you don't normally belong to but wanted to be part of. Were there people who acted either as a "sentinel" (keeping you out of the group) or a "guide" (helping you integrate with the group)? What were the groups? Who were the guides and sentinels? How was their behavior different from your own?
5)Who has challenged you on your priorities? What specific points do they make regarding why they think your priorities are wrong? How much of this do you take to heart?
6)Who have you had trouble getting to understand you, while at the same time they tell you "there are just things you don't understand, my dear," or something to that effect? These are the people who see things fundamentally different from you. You believe they are wrong, while they believe you are, but they have the authority. What are some examples of this happening? What triggers these types of interactions? How do you regulate or work with each-other in situations like this?
7)How would you describe the child in you that wants to please or mock people? What triggers the sense of mocking, or an attempt to please? How do you turn it into humor? How well does the humor serve to mock or please its audience?
8)When you completely loose control, what come out? How do you view the world at these times? How do you regain composure? What do these incidents teach you?
I realize this may take some time to answer, and I'll be working on mine. I hope this will yield some insight into ourselves and others over time.
Please enjoy, and thanks for taking the time to read this.