Same Personality Types Rub Each Other The Wrong Way?

NashK · 08-28-2008, 01:25 AM

It just hit me today, after much observation, that people with the exact same personality type tend to avoid each other and, in general, rub each other the wrong way. For example, in my community there are two brilliant INTJ's who are almost exactly the same in interests and personality. But they can't stand each other, and constantly denounce the other one publicly.

My mother, an ENFP, knows two ENFP's and avoids them like the Dickens. When I mentioned to her the similarity in MBTI, she got nervous, and started finding all sorts of differences between them and her.

Finally, there's my younger sister and I, both INFP's. I think she's a great person, but I dislike talking to her because there is no dynamic happening between us at all. Plus, it feels strange- as if I'm talking to someone copying the things that make me unique.

Anyone else have this? Does it make sense?

entropie · 08-28-2008, 01:28 AM

gosh that title sounds nasty xD

Jack Flak · 08-28-2008, 01:45 AM

I prefer to be the only INTP in the room, irl. There's no competition, and no one to decipher my cleverness. I generally like being around INTJ, ENTP, INFP quite a bit. But INTJs online throw me for a loop. Perhaps they want to anonymously remove their facade of sanity and togetherness. They're completely bonkers.

animenagai · 08-28-2008, 02:19 AM

i actually think i agree. i think i've been around a few ENFP's, and though it is nice to talk about a lot of similarities, it doesn't create an interesting dynamic. i'm very much a 'touch-feely' person, but i don't think i ever am when i'm around other NF's in general. they don't give you that 'what the fuck?' of 'get away from me!' look, which is really why i give hugs out in the first place

. this is just an example of course, i'm sure there are more.

Haphazard · 08-28-2008, 02:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jack Flak

But INTJs online throw me for a loop. Perhaps they want to anonymously remove their facade of sanity and togetherness. They're completely bonkers.

They don't want to remove it... they're just taking it off for a while. That facade of sanity and put-togetherness is a rather constricting corset.

I had noticed this pattern with INTJs, but I wasn't sure if it held true for the other types. I wonder if there's a pattern? From what's here, it might be an Fi/Te thing.

helen · 08-28-2008, 02:52 AM

I've never met another INFJ, or if I have I didn't recognize them.

Jack Flak · 08-28-2008, 02:55 AM

Oh, but it is funny when I'm with an INTP and ESFP at the same time. I'm subtly derogating the ESFP in a good-natured way, constantly, and the INTP laughs at everything I say while the ESFP is oblivious.

Lithium · 08-28-2008, 03:08 AM

i wouldn't say always, i appreciate the qualitites in other istps, but i don't know any that i hang around with all that much. i've seen some same types not get on and some that do.

ofugur · 08-28-2008, 03:18 AM

although, my ENFP brother and I have similar personality types, our general philosophies on life clash greatly. he's an enneagram type seven, so he values instant gratification and enthusiasm, while I, as a four, romanticise introspection and longing.

SquirrelTao · 08-28-2008, 03:24 AM

I honestly don't know the type of most of the people I interact with. I do know a few people online outside of this forum who've taken an online MBTI quiz just for fun and who have turned out to be either INTPs or INFPs depending on the quiz (just like me), and I have gotten along well with them. Then there was one INFP who never seemed to like me. His oversensitivity combined with mine did not work well at all. And he really knew how to hurt my feelings, better than most people who try, who usually miss their mark.

08-28-2008, 01:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
NashK Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: INFP Posts: 21	Same Personality Types Rub Each Other The Wrong Way? It just hit me today, after much observation, that people with the exact same personality type tend to avoid each other and, in general, rub each other the wrong way. For example, in my community there are two brilliant INTJ's who are almost exactly the same in interests and personality. But they can't stand each other, and constantly denounce the other one publicly. My mother, an ENFP, knows two ENFP's and avoids them like the Dickens. When I mentioned to her the similarity in MBTI, she got nervous, and started finding all sorts of differences between them and her. Finally, there's my younger sister and I, both INFP's. I think she's a great person, but I dislike talking to her because there is no dynamic happening between us at all. Plus, it feels strange- as if I'm talking to someone copying the things that make me unique. Anyone else have this? Does it make sense?

08-28-2008, 01:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
entropie Liasion man in Amsterdam Join Date: Apr 2008 Type: entq Location: Bochum, Germany Posts: 5,205	gosh that title sounds nasty xD __________________ pocket estj Enneagram: 3w4 "Now is the dramatic moment of fate, Watson, when you hear a step upon the stair which is walking into your life, and you know not whether for good or ill." ~Sir Arthur Conan Doyle [Mind.in.a.Box] -------

08-28-2008, 02:52 AM	#6 (permalink)
helen Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: INFJ Posts: 241	I've never met another INFJ, or if I have I didn't recognize them. __________________ "There ain't no doubt in no one's mind that love's the finest thing around. Whisper something soft and kind." --James Taylor

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Jack Flak Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: INTP Location: The Everlasting Sky Posts: 9,359	I prefer to be the only INTP in the room, irl. There's no competition, and no one to decipher my cleverness. I generally like being around INTJ, ENTP, INFP quite a bit. But INTJs online throw me for a loop. Perhaps they want to anonymously remove their facade of sanity and togetherness. They're completely bonkers.

08-28-2008, 02:19 AM	#4 (permalink)
animenagai Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: ENFP Posts: 573	i actually think i agree. i think i've been around a few ENFP's, and though it is nice to talk about a lot of similarities, it doesn't create an interesting dynamic. i'm very much a 'touch-feely' person, but i don't think i ever am when i'm around other NF's in general. they don't give you that 'what the fuck?' of 'get away from me!' look, which is really why i give hugs out in the first place . this is just an example of course, i'm sure there are more.

08-28-2008, 02:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
Jack Flak Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: INTP Location: The Everlasting Sky Posts: 9,359	Oh, but it is funny when I'm with an INTP and ESFP at the same time. I'm subtly derogating the ESFP in a good-natured way, constantly, and the INTP laughs at everything I say while the ESFP is oblivious.

08-28-2008, 03:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
Lithium Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Type: I__P Posts: 249	i wouldn't say always, i appreciate the qualitites in other istps, but i don't know any that i hang around with all that much. i've seen some same types not get on and some that do.

08-28-2008, 03:18 AM	#9 (permalink)
ofugur Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Type: ESTJ Location: USA Posts: 161	although, my ENFP brother and I have similar personality types, our general philosophies on life clash greatly. he's an enneagram type seven, so he values instant gratification and enthusiasm, while I, as a four, romanticise introspection and longing.

08-28-2008, 03:24 AM	#10 (permalink)
SquirrelTao Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INXX Posts: 198	I honestly don't know the type of most of the people I interact with. I do know a few people online outside of this forum who've taken an online MBTI quiz just for fun and who have turned out to be either INTPs or INFPs depending on the quiz (just like me), and I have gotten along well with them. Then there was one INFP who never seemed to like me. His oversensitivity combined with mine did not work well at all. And he really knew how to hurt my feelings, better than most people who try, who usually miss their mark.