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    That's helped a lot- thanks! Just don't want to be nagging to him and put him off because I have a tendancy of talking a lot when I get nervous which is abnormal for me as an INFP!! At least I've sent it so will just wait and see what the outcome is 👍🏻

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    from the ENFP page:

    The children of ENFPs generally feel loved, because the ENFP gives their children plenty of genuine warmth and support. They usually value their children as individuals, allowing them room for growth. The ENFP's enthusiasm and affection may at times seem smothering to their children. This will be especially true for children with strong Thinking or Sensing preferences, who will have a difficult time understanding the effervescence of the ENFP, and will feel at times embarassed by the ENFP's enthusiasm and tendency to display their affection publicly.
    I like it.

    However, the T-dom or S-dom types don't, hence why you need to just get back to business type attitude. It's going to be difficult for you since it is not something you are used to, you need to consider how this will affect you in the long run because you both are very different from each other. As long as you accept him and his requirements and he does yours in return, as well, things will work out just fine. But, beware this is not your normal way of going about your normal life, and it and will tire you out and then you need to remember not to try to change him to the way you like things.

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    Thanks for this! Yes I've read a lot online about how hard INFP and ISTJ couples find it. That's partly why I'm being cautious but I also want to be myself but if things deepen we'll both have to work hard to make it work. It doesn't always help that we live 4hrs from each other. I'm just taking things slowly because we are friends already and I find want to ruin what we have

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    And here is another piece of information from the author(s) of the MBTI system herself:

    INFPs in Love

    Isabel Myers (INFP) married a man named Chief, an ISTJ and a good man. They were happy together, but according to Isabel's own type theory they weren't predicted to be perfect for each other. Later on, Myers said that if she had known about type theory, she probably wouldn't have married Chief. Hm! There is a lesson to be learned here: type is not everything, nor should it be the decisive factor in choosing your lifemate. Take it from the founder of type herself.
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    That's reassuring!! Thanks. Most of the info I've read has been showing me how I shouldn't go for ISTJ'S but every ISTJ is unique and I don't normally have feelings for men like I do with this one. I'm not one to blurt it out but I get excited every time I see him which is so unlike me. He makes me happy and I feel I can trust him and most importantly I feel I can be myself around him

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
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    I like it.

    However, the T-dom or S-dom types don't, hence why you need to just get back to business type attitude. It's going to be difficult for you since it is not something you are used to, you need to consider how this will affect you in the long run because you both are very different from each other. As long as you accept him and his requirements and he does yours in return, as well, things will work out just fine. But, beware this is not your normal way of going about your normal life, and it and will tire you out and then you need to remember not to try to change him to the way you like things.

    And some more expert information available from the same website:

    Word to the wise, if you are naturally more effusive, don't get too business-like or that darn inferior Ne tends to read into it. A toned-down version of the natural affect seems to work best because that tertiary Fi still seems sensitive to things that seem inauthentic. This is just my experience with ISTJs... But then again ENFJ business mode might be a bit different than INFP business mode.

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    Thank you for all your help. It's really encouraging to hear positive news instead of all the negative I read in forums about our personality types

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    I think I have my answer because there has been no reply but thank you to everyone anyway for helping me out. I have a clearer idea of the kind of person I want to be with. I know I may not be as patient as I normally am but it's hard when you ask a question and need an answer asap or other plans will take its place. I'm taking the reply as a no but I feel ok about it. Just kinda wish I had an actual written answer as it is a bit rude and I'd never dream of ignoring someone, even if I didn't want to or couldn't meet up. It's just being polite. I only had 4 days to allow a reply so maybe I'm in the wrong but hey. Just hurts being ignored and didn't think he was that kind of person.

    You guys really have been great. Thank you 😊

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bee1991 View Post
    I think I have my answer because there has been no reply but thank you to everyone anyway for helping me out. I have a clearer idea of the kind of person I want to be with. I know I may not be as patient as I normally am but it's hard when you ask a question and need an answer asap or other plans will take its place. I'm taking the reply as a no but I feel ok about it. Just kinda wish I had an actual written answer as it is a bit rude and I'd never dream of ignoring someone, even if I didn't want to or couldn't meet up. It's just being polite. I only had 4 days to allow a reply so maybe I'm in the wrong but hey. Just hurts being ignored and didn't think he was that kind of person.

    You guys really have been great. Thank you
    You are justified in feeling the way you do. My friend typically does reply within a few hours unless he's having phone issues or is on a trip. However, sometimes life just gets in the way. Sorry for the disappointment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by captain curmudgeon View Post
    You could always grab him by the genitals and see what happens. Precedent has been set now saying this is something most people don't really consider a problem.
    I was just thinking "Mount him."

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