I really appreciate your insights! I know him quite well. Here's what my intuition tells me: we have been strongly attracted to each other, but circumstances have made open communication about relationship impossible. I have been married, and am now separated from my spouse. The separation has been 15 years in the making, and is civil and amicable. My infp friend had nothing to do with the ending of the marriage, and, being ethically minded (as am I in such matters)he would not have entered into an extramarital relationship. I would like to explain to him what has transpired in my life, and I would like to confess my feelings for him. In one way I think he would not be surprised, but I think he might experience even a gentle declaration of love as excruciatingly intense. He is the most sensitive person I have ever met-I too am sensitive, but am protected by my emotional stone fortress. And of course, being an enfp, I'm driven to talk, to engage, to explore everything, talk to everyone, and generally mess with the world. So that's it, in a nutshell. I'm always on the learning curve...thanks again for your attention, fellow enfp/7w6 etc.