I wasn't mean to her, although I am sure that she thought that because I had to level with her. That she couldn't perform the job reliably to the standards that it needed to be met for me to count on her. Simple as that. If she wanted more responsibility, I would be open to giving it to her and work with her on building it, but she would have to show improvement.
ENFP sent me this after that day at work.
"She's mad but she's magic. There's no lie in her fire."
Saying that, I think sometimes I could choose better words for what I want to say but it just would take so much more energy. Reminds me of Carlin's stand up about soft language and how it attempts to conceal truth. Shell Shock is now 'Battle Fatigue" then "PTSD" etc.