Basically the idea in jungian psychology about mid life is that its part of individuation:
I prefer to not rely so much on other peoples guidance in this sort of matters, because i think it leads to deeper understanding of Self(because its self-actualized) and forcing you to step out from your comfort zone differently. But ofc this like no thing is black and white and im not saying that its not good to learn from relationships, but relying too much in others in your self-realization isnt good, but relationships(romantic or platonic, or just random everyday people interactions) are the whole reason for why people need to figure their selves out and learn these different behaviors and thinking patterns that wouldnt be even all needed if you were alone in the world. Especially if you are in romantic relationship, its even more important to adjust to your partner, especially if the differences in personality are huge.Originally Posted by http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Midlife_crisis#Theoretical_basis
If you and your partner had already balanced in your T-F, dont you think that your understanding of each others would be more deeper from the beginning creating better basis for the relationship and better ability to empathize with the other without easily projecting a lot to each others?