03-04-2016, 09:16 AM #21
03-04-2016, 09:19 AM #22
Yes, I don't think there's ever been a time in my life without some kinda drama. I lashed out at all of my friends, destroyed one of their art projects, and brought a knife to school that I used to cut myself all because someone I loved didn't love me back, and then I was suspended for 10 days yesterday. For example. Being sx-dominant means that not only do I enjoy it, but I can't avoid it.
And yes, I like connection. The most powerful kind of connection is just exchanging looks between someone. Like, I'll notice them looking at me a lot and I'll do it back to them. That's what gets sx going.So dust off your fuck me pumps
03-07-2016, 03:46 PM #23
03-07-2016, 04:24 PM #24
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03-07-2016, 04:25 PM #25
03-07-2016, 06:47 PM #26
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- 4w3 sx/so
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03-07-2016, 11:25 PM #27
Sp/sx here...the sp bit will be even more obvious after this post.
I don't like social politics or interpersonal drama. I mean the kind of stuff where people are two-faced and maneuver things in an underhanded way. I hate that kind of drama, and part of it is because I just don't get it and because it looks juvenile, not "intense". When younger, most heartbreak was in my head, where most of my life was lived. Real people failed to be very compelling to me, or some masochistic part of me felt denying them access (and myself to them) would somehow be rewarded with a much greater passion later on. The most real pain to me has always been acute disappointment, aka, the tragedy of nothing.
The "intense" thing I like(d) that those around me couldn't grasp is debating; I like to disagree, but it can be a compliment to someone because what they said caught my attention enough to bother. I like the stimulation of an intellectual argument, but where people don't resort to low blows, but actually use their brains. I also have always liked a flirting and bantering style that involves some friendly jabs. A fair amount of people dont like that. I feel like it simultaneously creates and relieves sexual tensions. I don't like gushiness unless it is poetic and clever or incredily sincere in a blundering sort of way, but most people just spout cliche and strike me as terribly mundane. They bond a whole lot better than I do though.
When younger, especially, I used to purposely read, listen to, or watch things that would stir up intense emotion, sometimes making myself cry. It really was a fascination with emotional extremes and a desire to feel intensely, just to know what it is like. But I was inhibited in my real life interactions because of shyness and fear of humiliation and vulnerability. So I never sought out or created much real life drama.
As for the latter stuff about responses to people I'm attracted to (platonically or romantically), yes, very much so. I always thought of it as a "change in the air". I thought a physical aspect to an emotional response is pretty standard human stuff... I also experience these things as very "vibey", and it probably is because I am less intune with the physical and less able to pinpoint it, so it all seems atmospheric (the "air" again).
I would never call myself dramatic because I am mostly contained in public and the day-to-day, and so acquaintances think I am either laidback or aloof. Close friends and family see occasional temperamental outbursts and might say otherwise. I think I threw a burrito at someone's head once."Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure
INFP | 4w5 sp/sx - 451| RLUEI - Primary Inquisitive
03-08-2016, 03:21 AM #28
The drama thing I have not tried to create but have sometimes thought subconsciously I have pulled it in around me. I don't enjoy the lows (my lows are scary-pit of despair-low) but love the high's. Been curious for a while as to weather ENFP's (maybe especially sx doms) can appear pretty bi polar... or just that they do have a lot of low lows and high highs-viewable externally as well as internally.
Though I'm not sure how much drama I have created intentionally... inasmuch as I do not desire to be the centre of attention. More that I have been a walking whirlwind at times. The attention I crave tends to relate more to your second question.
I desire attention from individuals i feel a connection to. And yes I do feel really intense deep emotional connections to people. Not so much in a visceral sense. Sometimes I'm not sure they even know I feel it.... which probably relates more to being sx/sp.... it is not always necessary for me to have the connection in the real world... my head plays all sorts of scenarios out with people and I can hold them very highly in my esteem without their knowledge. It can come to the fore and confuse people too I think. Though of course sometimes a connection is so very existentially powerful that it creates an energy all of it's own that others can also bear witness to as well as the individuals not being able to suppress or deny it."We knew he was someone who had a tragic flaw, that's where his greatness came from"
03-08-2016, 05:00 PM #29
I think one of the key traits of Sx people is the fact that they many not see drama where other can see it. Therefore they can claim that they don't like it that much while others will disagree. ("drama" is actually very subjective term)
03-08-2016, 06:39 PM #30I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.
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