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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly View Post
    Aww don't be embarrassed. It's nice you feel so much affection. What I wanted from my sx friends and significant others was to realise I do feel the same amount of affection for them but I express it in a different way. I've often wondered if I seem to withdrawn and at times aloof to sx doms. My mom is sx dom and I think she feels I am too stand offish sometimes but I honestly do feel very close to her. She's also an enneatype two so she's a walking huggle machine :p
    Well I just admit, sp doms are tough. In younger form, not so easy not to feel unwanted. I'm still sensitive but I understand more as an adult some people express affection differently. Some of my female friends are sp dom. There's no problem there. Romantically I'm afraid I would feel terribly disconnected if the person didn't make effort to show affection. I think this totally depends on MBTI as well as enng. Let alone person to person. I actually don't like hugging everyone. Only people I'm close with. I'm not THAT bad. Lol!
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    Quote Originally Posted by NK258 View Post
    Well I just admit, sp doms are tough. In younger form, not so easy not to feel unwanted. I'm still sensitive but I understand more as an adult some people express affection differently. Some of my female friends are sp dom. There's no problem there. Romantically I'm afraid I would feel terribly disconnected if the person didn't make effort to show affection. I think this totally depends on MBTI as well as enng. Let alone person to person. I actually don't like hugging everyone. Only people I'm close with. I'm not THAT bad. Lol!
    Yeah I can imagine sx doms would find sp doms hard work lol. I have also learned that people will show affection differently to how I do, such as sx doms, and that's fine And lol nobody is as bad as my mother :P

    And yeah if somebody made no effort to show affection I'd feel disconnected too. I dated someone once who treated me like I wasn't even there so even when I feel somebody is possibly being a little to intense for me I have learned to appreciate the effort they are making and the genuine feelings they have for me - whether it be in a platonic or romantic way.
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    @holly

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    Quote Originally Posted by AphroditeGoneAwry View Post
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    how can you be the sex goddess if you are sx last?
    Maybe she broke down the physical act of sex into parts, critically analyzed them, and then figured out how to perfect them in herself.
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    But wouldn't SP be most interested in their own personal experience?
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    One aspect that I'm not fond of is the hot-and-cold dynamic I've experienced with some. Although it isn't usually all that bad, I can think of one relationship dynamic I had with an extroverted Sx-Dom that still puzzles me to this day..We seemed to share some sort of 'connection', yet I found her attitude towards me on any given day incredibly polarizing.

    While it can certainly be interesting, it's draining also.

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    Nothing special, I know a lot of people are mistyped as them. So/sp is the most common stacking. I have this stereotypical thinking though that they don't care much about the world or the environment or anything. Which is a bad thing. But I think that if a sx-first fell in love with me, and I liked that person too, I wouldn't have to do all the work. But I don't know if I would like an sx-dom in that way. I tend to be drawn to so/sp, sp/so and sp/sx. I find them the most interesting and relatable.
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    "Intense" is the best word overall I think. Sometimes Sx/Soc can press way too hard and fast and it makes me want to run and hide. And sometimes Sx/Sp seems very dramatic... which I do want from time to time and in private, especially in romantic relationships, but I feel uncomfortable about too much in public. However, I like the way they get to the core, like EJCC said, and I love their zest for life.

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    They often post about unintentionally coming on too strong and bothering people with their intensity when it isn't intended or personal and they are just acting like who they are. I can empathize because there is an equivalent: I am 90 percent of the time not rejecting life as a general experience and not personally rejecting you. It is that some of the things and behaviors that fill you with life drain mine - sometimes a lot, and it would be a lot shittier of me to pretend or lie that it doesn't happen. There is effort to be made on both sides, and we each sometimes go too far to appease our instincts, in which cases a reminder to consider the other is warranted. But especially on an everyday level, I am happier and healthier than you think without being "drawn out of my shell". I am not enjoying my shell, either, or complacent in it. I am a different animal altogether: I do not have a shell.

    I find it hard to get along with Sx dominants when what each of us needs to live is like a shock collar on the other person. Once again, nobody should be selfish, and people with different needs can collaborate successfully with equal, considerate effort. I am just airing my frustration with a small and extreme fraction of cases where basic needs are divergent to such a stressful extreme to both parties that the choice to collaborate in the first place wasn't worth anything it could produce. Some people just should not work closely, and I often am the person to see that first.

    Besides outlying conflicts, I admire and respect Sx a great deal. I see the risks they take as courageous, though maybe just because I know how it would take guts for me to be like that because it's out of my type.
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    For me sx doms are too intense and can be even emotionally draining. They can seem very interesting at the first sight with all their passion and usual charisma it's easy to fall for them, but for me I can't be with them for long without feeling drained.

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