Yep this is me. If there is a potential lover in the room, and also a group of my personal friends, I tend to ditch my friends for the lover every time. Guys say, "Bros before hoes" but I say "Hoes before bros". I don't mean to do this, it just happens.Relatively quickly. There are just certain types of girls that just sort of do it for me, especially ones with good taste and come off as independent.
The main difference between me and Sx-firsts is that in a group setting, I'll be focused on the general conversation, while I'm guessing Sx types will be in their little corner with whoever they deem especially interesting. Sometimes I socialize the Sx-way, but I'm more So around people I'm not that close to.
lol, I hate how the social/sexual treats group interaction. They can never have intense, one-on-one conversations with you. They also want to bounce from talking to this person over here, to that person, to that person, and it just angers me. Why can't they just stay in one fucking place? lol, I almost feel like a cat trying to catch a mouse. This is what I think of when trying to interact with a so/sx...This is a good observation. Just personally, I feel like I have a lot of overlapping little "circles" (basically the same thing, but that's how I've always thought of them). One would be my nuclear family... my little group of friends from high school... friends from college in my sorority... friends from college in my dorm... etc. I almost think of it like atoms and their electron clouds - people tend to travel in certain groups, but they also bounce from group to group, and some tend to be mostly independent. I agree that they tend to be 3-10 people. Anything smaller is just a 1-on-1 relationship and anything much larger looses ability to be personal.
To elaborate on identity, I find some degree of identity through those groups, but it's more of a functional identity than it is derived from the group itself. In other words, I see myself in roles as a girlfriend, a mom, a daughter, a sorority sister, a humanitarian, an event organizer, a leader, and so on, and I feel a strong resonance with those roles. It's not so much about the exact people themselves as it is about the nature of the relationships. In many of the groups I associate with, people come and go, but I feel the allegiance to the nebulous idea of the group because of what the group stands for - love, goodness, friendship, fun, generosity, citizenship, etc. Which is not to say that sometimes I don't love the people, and sometimes I love the people more than the group. But they're two separate things, in a way.
In other words, I don't think the Social instinct is always about people as much as it is about relationships, and relationships can be important because of the people or they can be important because of the relationship. (Consider a person's chosen job, for example - often certain people gravitate towards certain careers because they are particularly drawn to certain types of roles).
Also I don't think that I will ever understand loyalty to organizations or groups either. To me, it's loyalty to individuals. I don't even get groups.
One more thing, you say that you identify as a mom? Are you a mother in real life?
lol so you use shopping as a bonding activity? I could see how shopping could be SO in this manner. I'm never going to understand this though. I see shopping as using my resources that are vital to my health and to my life to buy things that I want and need. I constantly analyze ways that I can save money as well. I don't view shopping as a bonding experience at all.In general, yes, I would agree. At the same time, I think that one can come at an activity for a number of reasons. I understand how shopping could be Social. It's sort of a low-key interaction activity, where you're around a lot of people and can observe trends and flux, but you can to choose where and when to directly interact if you desire to. I assume @Stansmith is talking about more recreational shopping, as opposed to shopping for necessities, which would indeed be more Self-Pres aligned. Along the same vein, you can see working out fulfilling the core desires of any of the variants. It attends to SP taking care of one's body, SX getting energy flowing, and could feasibly attend to SO wanting to be someone who works out, or simply being with/around others while working out.