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    Like I've failed. It is a weird feeling, but I have to admit I am sort of competitive on that. I am fully aware of how minor a thing it is in a world of other pursuits though
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    @OP

    Like I've failed. It is a weird feeling, but I have to admit I am sort of competitive on that. I am fully aware of how minor a thing it is in a world of other pursuits though
    It's not a minor thing to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    It's not a minor thing to me.
    Nor to me. But it is about perspective and being able to not take your instinctual desires as the end all in the universe. Iow, being able to step away, not take it too seriously and be able to laugh at yourself a bit especially when you consider how relative it all is. There are more important things in the world after all. That said, it is important enough for me to consciously be aware of it and improve where i can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Nor to me. But it is about perspective and being able to not take your instinctual desires as the end all in the universe. Iow, being able to step away, not take it too seriously and be able to laugh at yourself a bit especially when you consider how relative it all is. There are more important things in the world after all. That said, it is important enough for me to consciously be aware of it and improve where i can.
    That's hard for me. I view it as a lingering problem that needs to be solved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    That's hard for me. I view it as a lingering problem that needs to be solved.
    you will get old and lose your looks, sex drive and sex appeal eventually. It is just a fact of life so i consider it unwise to get too attached, i guess
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    you will get old and lose your looks, sex drive and sex appeal eventually. It is just a fact of life so i consider it unwise to get too attached, i guess
    I'll take Viagra to keep my sex drive. Then, I'll use facial treatments to look younger. If I have to, I'll also get plastic surgery to look younger. I'm not looking like an old bag, no matter what!

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    I'll take Viagra to keep my sex drive. Then, I'll use facial treatments to look younger. If I have to, I'll also get plastic surgery to look younger. I'm not looking like an old bag, no matter what!
    People might find that level of effort desperate and desperation is commonly cited as being unattractive. I mean, yeah, put effort into looking and feeling good but single-minded fixation is bound to turn a lot of prospective mates off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    Well again I have this stupid gagging problem that prevents me from doing heavy exercise, and I also have hypoglycemia which makes me have to eat more so it's not good for maintaining an attractive weight. Not being attractive due to these conditions is really doing a number on my psyche.
    Are you able to do moderate exercise for extended periods of time? I think that would help a lot; also decreasing or eliminating white flour and decreasing refined sugar helps a lot. I don't know what your diet or lifestyle is like.

    In response: I have always had faith that I am desirable, even when I didn't like my appearance all that much and felt awkward. There was still the competing belief that I was ugly and undesirable though; somehow both beliefs existed in my psyche. In the past like 5 years I think I have become a lot more attractive, in subtle ways; but I still have that little fear sometimes that deep down I am ugly and the person I am with is going to discover it and leave me (despite guys telling me all the time that I'm beautiful). I probably try to overcompensate in a lot of ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by senza tema View Post
    People might find that level of effort desperate and desperation is commonly cited as being unattractive. I mean, yeah, put effort into looking and feeling good but single-minded fixation is bound to turn a lot of prospective mates off.
    So what's the alternative? Look like an old bag with wrinkly skin? I don't think so. I think that I'd be turning a lot more mates on than I would off.

    Quote Originally Posted by greenfairy View Post
    Are you able to do moderate exercise for extended periods of time? I think that would help a lot; also decreasing or eliminating white flour and decreasing refined sugar helps a lot. I don't know what your diet or lifestyle is like.

    In response: I have always had faith that I am desirable, even when I didn't like my appearance all that much and felt awkward. There was still the competing belief that I was ugly and undesirable though; somehow both beliefs existed in my psyche. In the past like 5 years I think I have become a lot more attractive, in subtle ways; but I still have that little fear sometimes that deep down I am ugly and the person I am with is going to discover it and leave me (despite guys telling me all the time that I'm beautiful). I probably try to overcompensate in a lot of ways.
    I'm thinking what I'm going to do is to take extra college loans out this semester to be able to get an upper GI and if necessary an upper endoscopy. I'm tired of living with this problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    So what's the alternative? Look like an old bag with wrinkly skin? I don't think so. I think that I'd be turning a lot more mates on than I would off.



    I'm thinking what I'm going to do is to take extra college loans out this semester to be able to get an upper GI and if necessary an upper endoscopy. I'm tired of living with this problem.
    wait...will you please indulge my laziness here and tell me again what you're problem is exactly?
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