So how do our very different So stackings make us different then considering we feel the same way about status and people's opinions of us? Does it also have something to do with our MBTI type? As a T you might care far less about other people's opinions of you anyway then I do as a major Fe user, but since you are a So first you have very good rational insights into people's relationships and can use this data for your advantage. I might not care about status but as a Fe user I am still aware enough of the relationships around me to not constantly put my foot in my mouth or come across as rude by stepping on social norms (which is heightened by the 9 desire not to create unnecessary conflict). So if I was a big Fe user AND a So first (and to top it off a SJ) I might be the overly status conscious kind of parent who nags their kids all the time about "what the other people might think", while if you were a T AND a So last you might be far less in tune with the interconnections around you. Am just throwing out my thoughts here.
Your suggestion of what is seen v what someone may care about is where I was going, so yup.
It's about what So is v how So lasters perceive it to be as it's a blind spot as per my above post (same with Sx and Sp), for relevance I'm very prone to flipping into Anti-social patterns as a So dom, it's an area that I have an imbalanced relationship due to my strong preoccupation, so misconceptions about what So are tend to exclude how I wear it. Status and caring how someone see's you is something some So doms will be focused on, I imagine your average non-So 3 (maybe even your average image-fix types) cares more about that then the average of all So doms though, it's more about focus and awareness imo.
To be clear, we probably don't feel exactly the same about status, I'm aware of it and there are ways I care, it's just not that big of a deal to me and I do not pursue it.
As a So dom 9 my preoccupation is looking for a feeling of belonging, and never actually feeling it, I'm drawn to social groups, but I am very much on the fringe observing
because I do not feel like I fit, which is the So 9 curse. For me my So is seeing all the social interconnections and struggling to comprehend that not everyone else does that because it's just so instinctive to me that zero effort is put into it. It's knowing who to approach and how in order to achieve what I want, understanding social etiquette expectations and being more inclined than non So-doms to adhere to them, especially with the 9 desire of not causing discomfort to others for the drama it may return, it's walking into the room and knowing how to work it like a politician would, even if you are never actually going to do so.
The not caring what others think of me, well I think part of it is possibly about my NTness, much of it would have to do with the 9 un-invested view on things, how can you care if you're not actually invested in the first place, we're good at our ability to be unaffected. Being So dom doesn't change that.
