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View Poll Results: What is your Primary Instinctual Variant and Primary Love Language?

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  • Sx and my primary LL is Quality Time

    13 21.31%
  • Sx and my primary LL is Words of Affirmation

    6 9.84%
  • Sx and my primary LL is Physical Touch

    7 11.48%
  • Sx and my primary LL is Gifts

    0 0%
  • Sx and my primary LL is Acts of Service

    1 1.64%
  • So and my primary LL is Quality Time

    5 8.20%
  • So and my primary LL is Words of Affirmation

    2 3.28%
  • So and my primary LL is Physical Touch

    0 0%
  • So and my primary LL is Gifts

    0 0%
  • So and my primary LL is Acts of Service

    0 0%
  • Sp and my primary LL is Quality Time

    16 26.23%
  • Sp and my primary LL is Words of Affirmation

    4 6.56%
  • Sp and my primary LL is Physical Touch

    6 9.84%
  • Sp and my primary LL is Gifts

    0 0%
  • Sp and my primary LL is Acts of Service

    1 1.64%
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  1. #21
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    sp/sx- words, touch, quality time, acts, gifts.
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    11 Physical Touch
    9 Quality Time
    6 Words of Affirmation
    2 Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts
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    2w3 so/sp

    10 Words of Affirmation
    10 Quality Time
    0 Receiving Gifts
    4 Acts of Service
    6 Physical Touch

    I like it, I think it works for me. Words are probably more important than time.
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    so/sp.

    1. Quality Time
    2. Physical Touch
    3. Acts of Service

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    I haven't read much about the instincts, sx/sp seems most accurate from what I know about them. LL has quality time just nudging out physical touch, but they're very close.
    However I can't stand physical touch with anyone other than my partner and my son... (and pets!). Almost like it's too intense for me to take with other people, this huge clashing invasion. Cymbals, thunder... I've gotten better at controlling it, but mostly I just avoid. A small brush of the hand when someone passes me something, used to send electricity flying through me, my heart accelerating, breath caught. Didn't matter who it was. Well it still does this, but I've learned to subdue it somewhat. It can make me quite nervous about social encounters. If someone touches me I just can't even think... almost like I'm not wholly myself anymore. I don't know it's hard to explain.
    One time (when I was younger) I had just bought a mug at this shop and the salesman handed it to me over the counter. His fingers brushed mine and the shock of it made me drop the mug. It hit the counter and shattered. For a second I stared at him, wide eyed, then I fled. (wow that is embarrassing to recount)

    Of course this probably says more about how messed up I am than anything else

    So with everyone else I show love with quality time, and giving little gifts that I think they'd like.
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    Okay, finally took this test. I think I'm Sp/So/Sx...

    1. Quality Time is highest.
    2. Physical Touch second-highest.

    After taking this, I still think there is a bias either culturally, or on this forum, or in the writers' choice of words that skews results for everyone away from Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts, statistically. Something seems off.

    It seems to vary by mood, too.

    I also wonder what you guys make of the fact that the Love Language you like to "receive" is not necessarily the one you like to "give." For instance, I think I like showing other people affection by Acts of Service, and maybe if I were more aware, I could see some subconscious appreciation when I get Acts of Service from other people....but so far, Acts of Service is showing up fourth out of the five languages on this test.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cimarron View Post
    I also wonder what you guys make of the fact that the Love Language you like to "receive" is not necessarily the one you like to "give." For instance, I think I like showing other people affection by Acts of Service, and maybe if I were more aware, I could see some subconscious appreciation when I get Acts of Service from other people....but so far, Acts of Service is showing up fourth out of the five languages on this test.
    My SO and I were having this discussion a few days ago, and realized that our language of giving is different. She prefers to give through touch, closeness and acts of kindness [which is not exactly the same as acts of servitude]. I prefer to give through words of affirmation, quality time and gifts. She prefers quality time and physical touch and I prefer to receive words of affirmation followed by quality time and acts of servitude.

    So after analysis of this, we realized that love language of giving of both partners is equally important as love language of receiving. Now we're trying to accommodate each other's language of giving as well trying to understand that without this level of understanding, we'll have longer term problems.

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    sp/so

    1. Quality Time
    2. Physical Touch
    3. Words of Affirmation

    ...in that order.

    The former two are almost tied, while WoA lies just a bit further down the road.
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    Sp/Sx. Quality time and acts of service are tied for me. Physical touch is next.

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    sx/sp

    1. physical touch
    2. quality time
    3. acts of service

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