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    Default Dom-Auxillary SX people in relationships with SX-Last people? Experiences?

    I'm curious about other people's experiences, how has it played out for you?
    Have you found a good compromise?

    Anyhow, below is an example of a difficulty within my relationship. Otherwise it's great.

    I'm 60% certain that my partner is a SX-last individual while I might be SX-Auxillary and well, sometimes I do feel that this difference does have a massive impact on our relationship together. Anyhow, this is how it manifests in my relationship.

    Every now and then, I'll have a conversation with my partner where I feel neglected because I believe they have prioritised friendship on the same level as me. Then, I'll feel terrible at expressing this since my partner becomes upset feeling that I'm misunderstanding her: that this is not reflective of how she feels about us.

    At that point, I don't really know what to do and desperately want to correct things between us. I have a sneaking suspicion, it's because I've made these assumptions and accusations about how much she cares based on what I perceive as her actions and intentions. But I can't be 100% certain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kai View Post
    I'm curious about other people's experiences, how has it played out for you?
    Have you found a good compromise?

    Anyhow, below is an example of a difficulty within my relationship. Otherwise it's great.

    An example of Sx-last/Sx-second couple.



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    I've realized recently that my ISFJ ex is an SP type (which is an interesting mix for an ISFJ/Two), and then likely an SO.

    No wonder we had so many problems when I started abandoning my SP ways, which were mostly a defense mechanism from childhood. The more my SX desires took dominance and the SP patterns diminished, the more distant I felt from my spouse and the more we wanted different things and weren't meeting each other's needs. We both became very unhappy and/or anxious.
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