I'm apparently one of these. It's fine by me.
[MENTION=17264]roastingmallows[/MENTION]'s descriptions of that so/sp being "transpersonal" but not caring to know (many) people on a deeply personal level are spot-on for me. With most people, "compassion from a distance" is more my style when relating to others.
In contrast, however we'd classify them--I find some people to be highly confrontational and too volatile, seemingly making assessments/accusations with
way too few data points. When it's targeted at me, it doesn't exactly hurt my feelings; it's impossible for someone who grasps at straws and wavers between extremes to seem credible enough. This is all to say that I absolutely cannot relate to that style.
I definitely have ambitions, and I'm deeply compassionate and very warm, but
passionate would not describe me. I prefer to be more well-rounded and pragmatic than 'laser-like.'
Being passionate seems like it'd have its merits. I'd peg both my fiancee and my mentor as sx-firsts
(though neither is exactly volatile), and they've taught me a thing or two about it. I'd historically tended to see getting too close too quickly as smothering, and I'd feel like I needed an escape. I had to
learn to embrace personal intimacy in my primary relationships, and both of them have served as excellent examples.