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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post
    Yes I agree. I think there's this intense immediate feeling any time you're really into something you're doing. Like climbing for me. A rush of adrenaline, a sense of being a part something, moving over or around, reacting to obstacles but everything seeming almost natural, like this is what I was born to do. I had sort of always associated it with sx for some reason. That intensity I guess.

    I believe wolfy had talked about the idea of 'flow' before. Seems kind of similar to me.
    This.
    Yeah, It does remind me of it. It has interested me for a long time and I have read a lot on it. Based some work on it too.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ginkgo View Post
    The core characteristic of sx doms is that they are driven to develop 1-0n-1 relationships. Even though the sexual tendency is to be attracted to those you are sexually attracted to, sx instincts are also concerned with all other 1-0n-one relationships. I wonder if we could take this further and say that sx drives us to develop relationships with ideas, objects, causes, and other things - relationships that border on obsession or hobby. Do you think this is feasible? If it is, are our definitions of the sx drive too narrow?
    Seems viable to me. I am sp/sx which would conflict over other things in a way I can understand. The idea seems to scale well.


    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    These thoughts cross my mind with this hypothesis:
    1. People are concepts to me so it's not much of a logical stretch that other concepts would also be of intense interest.
    2. Sx is intimacy. You can only become intimate with intangible or inanimate objects if it's one-sided. So the question is, is this true intimacy or just a delusion?
    3. Why this drive for intimacy? If you consider intellectual hoarding whereby to understand is a form of control, is sx a form of emotional control?
    I would see it as more of a emotional bonding, where you would be after the rush. Maybe like a parasite to a host, Venom to Spiderman.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    Maybe like a parasite to a host, Venom to Spiderman.
    YES!

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    Oh, obsessions. How I love 'em

    Was talking with a sp/sx INTP about this kind of issue the other day, actually, and the gulf between our manners of engaging with our interests was very obvious. He saw "obsession" with a particular interest/idea etc as being something inherently unhealthy, signalling a mental outlook that has become too narrowed-in to "work properly", and explained that, whenever he felt himself entering this kind of state, he would consciously back off from whatever the interest might be. For sx-firsts it seems like it's pretty much the reverse: the obsession, the single-focus, and the resultant experiential intensity, is the the point.

    Like this:

    Quote Originally Posted by niffer View Post
    Wanting to develop a strong "interpersonal" one on one relationship with things they are attracted to in some way. It's like trying to achieve metaphorical orgasm all the time in life.


    Definitely relate to the idea of obsessions with ideas, activities, cultural artefacts, etc, as a kind of relationship; I've long framed it this way to myself. I once read someone describe obsession as being "in love with something that can't love you back". For me it certainly is this sort of tenor of experience.


    I relate a lot to the concept of flow, too; that sensation of being so completely immersed in/"at one" with what you're doing that everything outside of it just falls away. And I love the unselfconsciousness of this state; as whatever experience you're engaged in expands and deepens to fill up everything, the ego just kind of...dissolves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by darling devotee View Post
    He saw "obsession" with a particular interest/idea etc as being something inherently unhealthy, signalling a mental outlook that has become too narrowed-in to "work properly"


    Wow. No way! Obsession is when I learn the most :P. Now I have to go talk to the sp-types and figure them out.
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    I get attached to physical possessions way too easily. Then I can't throw away stupid things.

    Also, how do you feel about animals? Too animate? Because I get really focused on pets.
    Go to sleep, iguana.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bamboozle View Post
    Now I have to go talk to the sp-types and figure them out.
    Lemme know if you manage it; maybe you can enlighten the rest of us

    Che, strange non-sx-doms, with their non-sx-dom ways of interacting with the world...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Poriferan View Post
    I get really focused on pets.
    same...

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    he's totally ENTP 8w7 sx/so

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    I will absolutely dissect, pull apart, sift, pick, string, separate and explode something/someone that has drawn my attention. My perhaps obsessive drive to get at the pith of any object - the etymology of it, the genesis moment - extends to a great many things, like words, or feelings, or colors.

    I'm daft as a brick about some things that may seem obvious to others, but what I do catch on to, I hold surely and take down to atoms. I think that has to do with my Ni following every strand of the spider web, my Fe need to soak it up and make the knowledge of it, the eureka, all and irrevocably *mine*.

    My focus tends to go downward, quantum level, instead of upward, outward facing. Vulcan mind meld. I wish I could do that. Place my fingers on someone, something, and draw the essence of its pulse into me.

    For better or worse, I won't stop until it's over, or unless someone snaps me out of it. I can disappear from sight for hours, days at a time. I don't consider myself a philosopher, but I do need to make contact within the circuit. I'm not a voyeur, I'm parasitic. *laughs*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Domino View Post
    I will absolutely dissect, pull apart, sift, pick, string, separate and explode something/someone that has drawn my attention. My perhaps obsessive drive to get at the pith of any object - the etymology of it, the genesis moment - extends to a great many things, like words, or feelings, or colors.

    I'm daft as a brick about some things that may seem obvious to others, but what I do catch on to, I hold surely and take down to atoms. I think that has to do with my Ni following every strand of the spider web, my Fe need to soak it up and make the knowledge of it, the eureka, all and irrevocably *mine*. My focus tends to go downward, quantum level, instead of upward, outward facing.

    For better or worse, I won't stop until it's over, or unless someone snaps me out of it. I can disappear from sight for hours, days at a time. I don't consider myself a philosopher, but I do need to make contact within the circuit. I'm not a voyeur, I'm parasitic. *laughs*

    All your base/knowledgez are belong to me (for now).
    So expressive you are. That is exactly how if feels for me. Thanks for putting such great words to it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AphroditeGoneAwry View Post
    So expressive you are. That is exactly how if feels for me. Thanks for putting such great words to it.
    No, I'm honored to be in here with so many astute minds. I'm drawing clarity from it.

    And LOL at wolfy's "parasite" comment. I hadn't read that when I wrote it. hahahah, YUCK...
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