I also want to say I have a great deal of empathy and compassion for the hardship you suffered when your family fell apart. If you did not know this previously I'm quite certain you know now - how Life doesn't stop when your world crumbles to the ground. And it can become confusing if you make the mistake of comparing yourself with others (don't do this!) if you start to wonder how this person or that person handled seemingly worse hardships with seemingly greater ease. <--acknowledge that this does occur. But remain mindful of the fact there are hardships...And there are upheavals. One taxes the resources you depend upon for survival/coping...and the other strips you of those resources and turns you out. If given the choice between the two experiences I know which one I'd choose a million times over...And I'm quite certain you know as much too.
I came to this site on the tail of an upheaval (tail what hell am I saying tail for? I came in the eye of an upheaval). And you will find posts from my earlier history here talking about how '6w7 as fuck' I was. I have mentioned this to you before now that I'm thinking of it (and Lady X agreed having gone through a similar experience)... but with everything you wrote above as well? As I live and breath...you are a 7w6 that got his ass kicked by an upheaval...and just can't identify with the super-human that never has a bad day... which seems to be the cornerstone of every e7 description. Keep on embracing the 6 and 7 in that order. I did it. Lady X did it. It will make sense to you...I know. But while nothing is certain in my mind...with your e-type...this is damn near as close as I get.
With what you said in the paragraph of your childhood... this doesn't tell me anything I can truly use to determine variant. What it does do is tell the story of a child glutton. In other words, many e7s become gluttonous for dreams and ideals. Shit, just the fact you utilized the word Disney in that paragraph automatically makes you 7w6 in my opinion...because that's exactly what it is. While normal children are enjoying Disneyland once every 2-5 years or so on the family vacation...e7 children actually live there in their minds. And yes, the dream/ideal consumption often includes a great deal of fairytaleish romance. Many e7s carry this 'addiction' to romantic idealism into adulthood.
This information actually makes you more challenging to type for the variants.
Tell me truly...how do you most often type on MBTI even if you don't agree with those results. Do you really test as ENTP? Or did you come by this because people sorta backed you into that box?
With what seems like such high levels of Fe from you I've even tossed around the idea of ESFJ...but while I do not believe Elfboy is an ENFP 7w6 under any condition...YOU may in fact be. I have heard of ENTP 7w6s reporting similar things from childhood...but admit it is far more likely out of the mouth of an ENFP. And interestingly enough...ENFPs that are so/sx...regardless of e-type...seem to present with some kind of faux-Fe.
All this to say...I'm still holding at ExxP 7w6 so/sx.