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    thanks so much for the links. the video was helpful..i think.

    i am more concerned about the relationship between myself, my family and closest friends. maybe this means i am sx dom...i believe secondly i am concerned about my own well being...i think i care the least about where i fit in to a group...or making connections..

    but...i only slightly relate to that sx/sp description up there.. :/
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    it is interesting...let me try and get clear for a minute..

    okay...when i'm out and about socially i crave an intense connection. i am often upset when the interactions feel flat....but i'm used to it because i think most people are not as interested in the the things i am...so i am content to be just light and socialize when in the mood...or...i don't feel like participating in less than ideal interaction so i can just do my own thing and not worry about it. i don't feel like i care about fitting in..i don't think i even care to try...that natural...mutual interest and connection is always just there or it isn't...i would prefer to have it but used to not....so?? that's why i feel like it's mood based but maybe the true motivation is a yearning for intimate connection.

    what do you think?
    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    thanks so much for the links. the video was helpful..i think.

    i am more concerned about the relationship between myself, my family and closest friends. maybe this means i am sx dom...i believe secondly i am concerned about my own well being...i think i care the least about where i fit in to a group...or making connections..

    but...i only slightly relate to that sx/sp description up there.. :/
    I'll say this, too - sometimes, we deny that we have tendencies toward an instinctual variant, because it manifests through making us vulnerable in that area.

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    so you think perhaps i'm so dom but i get irritated when i don't get the sort of interaction i'd like so i just take the attitude of well i don't care what you all think anyway? like that...??
    i really don't think that's it...i thought i was sx/so but i'm not some super intense person with high energy...7's already seem more energetic than i am so i can't imagine myself being one of the super energetic/intense subtypes...i think something in there needs to balance that expression to make sense.
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    ^ lady x i would almost think sx/so would have a more... compact? energy than so? like sx's is more reserved in general because it's saved for their "special" people and tight bonds more than utilized with everyone? whereas so would have a more outgoing, scattered energy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Goosebump View Post
    Whoa. I relate so much to this. The whole being in a small group within the larger group thing. [...] When I get the feeling that other people appreciate my contribution to the group, it feels great. At the same time, I care very much about being to connect beyond the surface level. If I hang out with someone for quite a while and I feel like we can't move beyond the superficial surface, I feel very bothered, like the whole relationship is strained and unnatural.
    myself as well. i love being a part of a group, but if the choice is between being part of a less-deeply-connected group or having a deep relationship, it's gonna be the deep 1-on-1 every time.

    i've read before about 9 "merging", and i think that's how i feel about groups. i like to "become" the group - to have it become a part of my identity. it's not so much about the exact people as it is about the meaning of the group, though i feel most grounded when i am in deeper relationships with one or more members of a group. that way is easiest for me... i don't want to always have to be responsible... but i like being connected.

    so/sx
    This type has very strong one to one social skills, but is usually uncomfortable in group settings. They enjoy cultivating multiple relationships, and can be intensely involved when in the presence of someone they are interested in, but have difficulty sustaining these bonds when apart. This may give the impression of being flighty and rootless, willing to adapt and mirror others in order to connect, but lacking a defined approach that would give their relationships a more solid standing. They may have political interests, but are generally more pragmatic and less partisan than the other social variant. They are often attuned to pop culture and the latest trends. This type's motivation is to create lasting connections with those they are interested in - the "best friend."
    oh wow, i know someone who is exactly like this. like, down to a T. she's very friendly but doesn't really mesh with groups much - it's like she either is a focal point or an outsider, no middle ground - and she's a really close friend when you're with her but she pretty much drops off the face of the planet once you're not in her 20-mile radius. she definitely has political leanings but they don't play a huge role in her life. she's veryy into pop culture, celebrities, fashions, etc, even though she's not really competitive or anything about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    so you think perhaps i'm so dom but i get irritated when i don't get the sort of interaction i'd like so i just take the attitude of well i don't care what you all think anyway? like that...??
    i really don't think that's it...i thought i was sx/so but i'm not some super intense person with high energy...7's already seem more energetic than i am so i can't imagine myself being one of the super energetic/intense subtypes...i think something in there needs to balance that expression to make sense.
    Nah, I definitely think you're sx dom. However, I do think you're sx/so. The intensity isn't pervasive, but when you're within your special groups, it ramps up to a particularly high level. Is that your experience?

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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights;1544907? energ
    ^ i like being 1-on-1 with people i really like. i don't like group interactions as much in that case. or i like to be part of a couple within a group. my favorite scenario is being 1-on-1 within a group, like going to a party with a boyfriend or being in a group with a best friend. i do generally love group interaction but the "crowd" i "play to" is my preferred one person.

    on the other hand i like group interactions better when i don't like the people as much. then can choose to interact more with the people i like a lot and i can get small doses of the people i like well enough to call friends but who tend to annoy me sometimes.



    i've tended to think of myself as sx-so, but i don't think i'm particularly "intense" under most circumstances.

    and i really understand what you mean lady x, they definitely seem like "moods" to me, too.


    myself as well. i love being a part of a group, but if the choice is between being part of a less-deeply-connected group or having a deep relationship, it's gonna be the deep 1-on-1 every time.

    i've read before about 9 "merging", and i think that's how i feel about groups. i like to "become" the group - to have it become a part of my identity. it's not so much about the exact people as it is about the meaning of the group, though i feel most grounded when i am in deeper relationships with one or more members of a group. that way is easiest for me... i don't want to always have to be responsible... but i like being connected. .
    I relate totally to that Sky, your ARE Sx/So, trust me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onemoretime View Post
    Nah, I definitely think you're sx dom. However, I do think you're sx/so. The intensity isn't pervasive, but when you're within your special groups, it ramps up to a particularly high level. Is that your experience?
    i don't feel like it ramps up no...god..it's just really all very confusing. i do always like to have a best friend person with me...(that could be a friend, a sister, my mom or boyfriend) but i typically like groups a lot...ughh...idk...i'll just stick with sx/so i guess...was just frustrated because the information out there seems very contradictory and i don't relate a lot to the descriptions..

    thanks for everyones help tho..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    i don't feel like it ramps up no...god..it's just really all very confusing. i do always like to have a best friend person with me...(that could be a friend, a sister, my mom or boyfriend) but i typically like groups a lot...ughh...idk...i'll just stick with sx/so i guess...was just frustrated because the information out there seems very contradictory and i don't relate a lot to the descriptions..

    thanks for everyones help tho..
    Descriptions suck. Just think about what you're drawn to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche View Post
    I relate totally to that Sky, your ARE Sx/So, trust me.
    I would agree with Speed, I can relate to you sky, as another sx/so, what you say definitely rings true for me as well.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    i don't feel like it ramps up no...god..it's just really all very confusing. i do always like to have a best friend person with me...(that could be a friend, a sister, my mom or boyfriend) but i typically like groups a lot...ughh...idk...i'll just stick with sx/so i guess...was just frustrated because the information out there seems very contradictory and i don't relate a lot to the descriptions..

    thanks for everyones help tho..
    Firstly, as I stated earlier, I think you are an so/sx, (my girlfriend is one and I notice the same tendencies), but I think you are forgetting the influence of the sx stacking as a supporting variant, it will inhibit if you will, the need to be in a group, sure being in a group would be nice, and it would be what you instinctively do first, but you are doing this to feel connected, if only to a singular individual or with a close group of people, sort of like you jump feet first into the world to find the person of your dreams, the world is an open place, full of epxeriences and people, and just maybe you will find 'the one'. That is what i've noticed dating an so/sx (she's a 4w3 INFP, but the variants will manifest slightly the same). Personally the same principle is true for myself as an sx/so but in reverse. I want to find this special person, 'the one', and in finding this, it allows me to to into the world and experience new things, to be lively, to really 'connect' with everyone and sort of take life head on, but this can only happen when I have 'the one' that helps sort of bring me to life I suppose, and well that's the basic theme. Yes you are going to relate to sx/so, the two types are similar, but don't discount the influence of the supporting variant, it plays a huge role.

    Also, I've noticed that sx/so and so/sx types tend to really get along well, as we both share SP-last, and have somewhat similar motives for behaviour, You should see if you relate to sx/so types, OR if you believe you are an sx/so, see if you relate to so/sx types. I notice there is an immediate 'click' there, but it also depends on their type and the individual (level of health, etc)
    Just my take Hope i've helped.

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