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    Question How does Sx merge with another person?

    I'm not sure if this topic has been made before but I'm testing out my luck anyway. :p

    I can grasp the concept of merging with nature, music, career, idea, etc. but I don't really understand how exactly one merges with another. I'm trying to figure out whether I'm sx/sp or sp/sx. I'm very sure I'm one of the two but I don't really relate to the concept of merging with another person. I mean, I love to have a deep and interesting conversation with a person to know more about them, but I don't think I've ever felt like I'm "one" with them. And for the record, I've never been in love or a relationship so I wonder if that has to do with anything.



    So, my questions are


    Does merging only apply to sexual attraction or just people in general?

    How do Sx know when they merge with someone?

    What does it feel like to merge with someone?

    How often does that usually happen?

    EDIT: Also, what is your instinctual variant?

    I wonder if Sx first would more likely to experience this merging of people than Sx second.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Goosebump View Post
    Does merging only apply to sexual attraction or just people in general?
    It applies to attraction, period -- sexual or not.

    How does Sx know when they merge with someone?
    For me, I get a deep, intense charge that often strikes me as soon as I start relating to them. It's a huge sense of rightness, of immersion, of intuitive connection, of jus being able to say anything and be completely understood, and understanding them. Like a spiral circle of energy flying around and around and around from me to them and back to me, continuously running full-tilt.

    I don't do drugs, but I'm sure it would feel similar to a persistent ecstatic/transcendent rush. And I long to keep talking to them / being with them. It's like you're dropping into each other, if that makes sense.

    What does it feel like to merge with someone?
    Sort of what I said above. You're "in the zone" with them and vice versa. Just totally in sync.

    How often does that usually happen?
    Not very.

    There's a lot of people I can connect with and enjoy and feel basically understood by, but who I can't say I'm merging with and who I've have an immediate jolt of connection with.
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    Hm. My only experiences have been bad. The other person’s anger or frustrations with life just showing up inside of me or something. Or feeling like what I want doesn’t matter. It starts out good but then just becomes really bad after awhile. I’ve been pretty careful about maintaining my distance recently after a couple really bad experiences.

    I think I am sp/sx though. For me, becoming a part of a creative process or a search for understanding seems to be something I can control a lot more and be much more reasonable about.
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    for me it's this feeling of wanting to climb inside someone and experience things as they do...or wishing you could transfer your brain to theirs or vice versa...it only happens with people i love or am fascinated by.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    for me it's this feeling of wanting to climb inside someone and experience things as they do
    That sounds an awful lot like another phrase I have used for it -- "climbing inside each other's skin." Yeah.
    "Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"

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    Does merging only apply to sexual attraction or just people in general?
    My preference is to view sx not as sexual but as intimacy. I'm guessing it can happen with anyone, whether sexual attraction is there or not.

    How do Sx know when they merge with someone?
    It's unmistakeable.

    What does it feel like to merge with someone?
    You know exactly where the other person is coming from at almost all times. That is unless you're in conflict. Then as an sx/sp, the wall goes up and blocks for self-protective reasons.

    How often does that usually happen?
    It's only happened to me once. The amount of trust that is given between connected individuals is staggering. But the take away is also staggering. Not sure I can ever do it again. But then, I'm not sure I could resist its siren call forever, if it came knocking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goosebump View Post
    Does merging only apply to sexual attraction or just people in general?
    attraction in general. not just to people. but activities also.

    How do Sx know when they merge with someone?
    i want to wear their skin.

    What does it feel like to merge with someone?
    i want to wear their skin. and make a hat out of their hair.

    How often does that usually happen?
    once in awhile, usually when i'm least expecting it.
    i don't think the resources will run out ever, it'll continually happen,
    makes me feel sane that i can be off guard without feeling i'll be missing out.
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    and begin slitting throats.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    wanting to climb inside someone
    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    That sounds an awful lot like another phrase I have used for it -- "climbing inside each other's skin." Yeah.
    oh! yes!
    every normal man must be tempted, at times,
    to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
    and begin slitting throats.
    h.l. mencken

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmhmm View Post
    oh! yes!
    Quote Originally Posted by mmhmm View Post
    i want to wear their skin. and make a hat out of their hair.
    "Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"

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    Are you ladies Buffalo Bills or sx primes?

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