I also more actively sought for connections when I was younger. The word "merge" still doesn't register for me though and I'm a 9, who supposedly merges more often than other types.People in general... however, it would be strongest with a lover of course. It used to be more common for me to want to merge with another when I was younger... less common these days. I think I have more walls up than I once did.
I do relate to this.Hmm... this would be hard to decipher from... like I said, I'm sx/sp, and as I've gotten older and put more walls up between me and others, I prefer to find intensity from any experience. I believe this is characteristic of sx's: the need to find intense experiences... be it connecting to music in the same merging type an sx does with other people. It's just that need to feel passionately connected and stirred. My desire to go on a walk is, not simply for the exercise or fresh air, but in hopes of being inspired or to help me connect to self or with the world at large. (but this could also be due to the fact that i'm an sx/sp variant...)
Yeah, real connection is when both parties are in it.
[QUOTE[Also, if someone comes at me with full intensity when I'm not ready, I'll be thrown off as well. No one wants someone to merge with them unless consent is given to do so... real connection. Haha.
I'd like to feel chills too, especially the ones I get from listening to music, and sometimes cry. I wouldn't mind putting on a comedy movie though. I love to laugh.I don't want cheap experiences in life, but real and intense experiences. And I think this will show in my taste of movies and music as well. Unless a friend picks it out, it's unlikely I'd put on a comedy or action flick. I prefer dramas, adventures, anything with meaning or a story that has intense emotions. I want to cry and feel chills, and want to be able to use that experience to relate to. Make sense?
Also, it's good that you pointed out the different ways each type participates people interaction. I guess as a 9, I'd very much prefer to have inner calm and I see intensity from people as a possible disturbance to that peace. To me, intensity = extreme. I'd rather have my relationships and conversations with people to be either funny or interesting, but not intense. For example, joking around, sharing our ideas and values, not talking about traumatic past or other horrible, tragic things, unless you're really close to me.
I read Jock's post and I could be Sx first. Exchanging ideas are cool, emotional mushy stuff, not as much, especially when you just know the person.