Are you over concerned with your desirability?
It's not something I think about, in the sense that I consciously analyze what it is & what it means to me. Often, I feel more burdened by all my wants. I want so profoundly and so frequently that it's hard to maintain a stable state of being for any extended period of time. Truth.
Interpreted & answered this question differently than everyone else, but 'sokay
Are you obsessed with something or somebody?
I don't obsess over things. I also don't believe I obsess over people. I am fascinated by people, always. I obsess over ideas and concepts. I obsess over imperfect systems that could be better. I obsess over music definitely.
What kind of intense experience attracts you? Do you actively reach it?
I like when I'm first meeting someone, and we hit it off so well that I want to reach out and touch him. I rarely ever connect with people in a meaningful way when I'm out, so whenever it happens it never feels real. But every time it does it's good. I also like when I've known someone for a while and instead of our connection weakening over time it's gotten stronger. Things I've struggled explaining before came easily, or I don't have to explain them anymore because he knows you so well.
And yeah. I seek both connection and love actively.
Are you paranoid in relationships? Jealous?
Not unless I have reason to be. And no, never felt intense jealousy in a relationship. There have been times of insecurity, though, where I've felt some jealousy, but I'm so afraid of turning that mad! crazy! jealous! b*tch! stereotype that I always put down those feelings as soon as they arrive.
No. I spend more time trying to direct attention away from myself than towards myself in general, but I have my moments. My particular brand of attention whorosity is just more selective (and stealthy).
Are you aggressive?
I prefer the word "passionate."
I'm not violent and not usually volatile, but my energy can be so frenetic & nervous at times. It depends on where I am emotionally.
Do you cultivate your masculinity? Femininity? Androgyny?
I believe I'm both "masculine" and "feminine." I try to maintain a balance, but I think I probably come off as much more "feminine" than I'd like to admit.
Are you or were you confused about your sexual orientation?
Nope nope. Was always sure. Although sometimes I think men got the better end of the deal.
Do you fear intimacy? Avoidant?
Yes and no. I desire to be intimate is so fundamental & innate for me (a real necessity). The only trouble is that in order to experience that I have to open myself up first, and that's challenging for me. I have a lot of walls and they seem impermeable, but they're not. Time, patience, trust, and, most importantly, understanding can open them right up!
How much are you opened to new experiences as a general rule?
Pretty open. I've noticed that I "try new things" just so that I can find a new routine to fall into. It's a weird NeSi thing. I guess!
Do you aspire to "become one" with something or somebody?
Yes. I'd like to, but I'm not sure if I can experience the oneness with a non-Sexual type. Which is frustrating and very annoying since two Sexual types together is just !!!
And trying to explain the "Let's be one!" desire to a non-Sexual type can be berry berry tuff. Guess it depends on who I find (or don't find) in the end.
Do you consider yourself as sexy?
no. I definitely get the "cute" label a lot, which in a way I help perpetuate, but have never gotten "sexy" (non-jokingly).
Do you often receive compliments? How do you react to this?
Sure. I try to be as nonchalant about them as I can possibly be, but I always fail. They're nice to receive (and I want to receive them since if I don't receive verbal affirmation regularly I start to worry about my worth & visibility, much to my own frustration), but I have no clue how to response to them.
Have you some passion for something or someone?
At the moment? No, but it's hard for me. I like being alone, I like being autonomous, but I also like sharing things & it's very hard not having someone there to share things with.
And I have a passion for some "things," yeah.
How do you deal with peoples of the six different variants (including the yours)?
I like Social types, but we never connect on a personal level (as in it's difficult for me to figure out what they enjoy & like talking about). Sx/so types are fun, but I never feel like I'm enough around them. I prefer sx/sp, even in their brooding angst. I also like sp/sx types, but sometimes the distance of the dominant sp variant bothers me. I don't have a lot of experience with sp/so types.
What is(are) the variant(s) of your mate(s)?
The variant of a past "mate" was sp/sx.
Do you identify with some desirable, sexy image and tend to look like them?
What do you mean? Are you asking if I have a role model who inspires my "sexy"? ahh! no!
My second variant is balanced (between so & sp), so I don't know if my answer means much to you, but if it helps I explained my relationship with those two types somewhere in the questions above.As an Sx/Sp, how would you explain the relationships between your sexual and self-pres instincts?
As an Sx/So, how would you explain the relationships between your sexual and social instincts?