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    reborn PeaceBaby's Avatar
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    Default so doms ... join our group!

    Well, we have the sx and sp threads, courtesy of Satine and Trinity respectively.

    So, how can we not have an so dominant thread too?

    My instinctual stacking order is so/sp/sx. I am also 9w1 for the curious.

    Come and join me in our informal yet friendly get-together via this thread.

    Let's see if we can notice any posting trends about ourselves - compare notes on how our this impacts our type...

    "Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one."
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    "When people see some things as beautiful,
    other things become ugly.
    When people see some things as good,
    other things become bad."
    Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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    so/sx/sp I think E 1w2

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    *hi five's Peacebaby* it was feeling incomplete without the So thread

    As a Sp/So I'm interested in seeing who's So/Sp to see how they come across different.

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    Instinctual variant: so/sx/sp
    Tritype: 1w9; 5 (balanced wings); 2w3

    Most of my social instinct manifests itself as the enneagram 5. I'm always more motivated to do things that impacts the entire group, than just myself and a small selection of friends. I can temporarily "switch" out my main focus into a Sp or Sx mode, but I've found that it links back into being connected with the environment. As an example, if I take care of myself, and reach a higher level of self-sufficiency, I can contribute even more to society. That's perhaps the main reason why I maintain a great deal of SP-esque interests.

    Additionally, I seem to burn out significantly less in social matters than my INTJ peers. I honestly don't mind leaving comfort-zones to explore the unfamiliar. With SP last, I get occasionally annoyed when someone mentions my needs out of the blue, because half of the time, I'm not sure what they are until I've grasped the social dynamics first. Since my personal safety and health gets sacrificed for the overall mission, it's not uncommon for me to bite off more than I can chew. Sometimes, I encounter a nasty case of inner conflict because I haven't established enough individual boundaries for myself.

    In a true so/sx fashion, I "cultivate multiple relationships" -- one or two from every department, and more if the group shares my interests. I feel at my best when I know what's going on around me. I'd love to know how each thread functions, what makes them tick, and the way they interact with the other threads. I'm also curious about how my own personality is perceived in each group. Nevertheless, I am still introverted and my energy has its limits, so I network as the friendly, but distant observer.

    Now, about the Sx as my secondary instinct; intimacy doesn't phase me. People do, however, surprise me with their laser-beam intensity, because as much as I enjoy interacting, I don't expect deep connections upon the first few meetings. Enjoyable and invigorating, perhaps, since that's my forte. (I'm good at monitoring the atmosphere in one-to-one situations.) Too much of it does exhaust me unfortunately. Though it only happens when I begin loosing global connection from spending a lot of time in the Sx domain. I try to balance the Sx by giving myself plenty of opportunities for outside networking. It's a work in progress, and I also have issues of staying in touch when the person is not around. You know, there's that saying, "out of mind, out of sight". So I'm not consistent in maintaining relationships as the Sx-doms are. I want to remedy that problem when I have more time.

    Well, here ends my antidote. I would offer something more comprehensive and broad, if I had a stronger understanding of the instinctual variants. For now, I just have my experience.
    "I cannot expect even my own art to provide all of the answers -- only to hope it keeps asking the right questions." -- Grace Hartigan

    Enneagram: Tritype - 1w9, 5 (balanced wings), 2w3; Overall Variant: So/Sx
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    Functional Preferences: Ni, Te/Fi, Ti, Se, Fe, Si, Ne


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    In all tests I've done (online ones, ones in books and ones in person with a pro dude), I've been consistently stuck right between types 7 and 8. Even the guy I know who does E type stuff for a living, who's a trained psychiatrist, throws his hands up and says I'm both of those types (not "neither" or "somewhere in between"). I don't understand it, but then I don't understand the E system very well, generally, anyway. I score a lot in 5 which apparently might be a clue that I'm either a 5 that's integrated into 8, or a depressed 8

    As a Type 8 I'm so/sp/sx
    As a Type 7 I'm sp/so/sx
    I'm male and over 30, FYI.
    Preferences: 20% Extravert, 98% Intuitive, 68% Thinker, 17% Perceiving

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    reborn PeaceBaby's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    *hi five's Peacebaby* it was feeling incomplete without the So thread

    As a Sp/So I'm interested in seeing who's So/Sp to see how they come across different.
    I am too ... loosely interpreted So is group first, Sp is me/individual first, but both can be at conflict with each other - and I feel like I can be aware of both at the same time. The group needs can be burning me out, but I can't tune them out, and I know I need to take better care of myself and my needs, but tend to push them aside more easily.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lethe View Post
    As an example, if I take care of myself, and reach a higher level of self-sufficiency, I can contribute even more to society. That's perhaps the main reason why I maintain a great deal of SP-esque interests.
    That sounds like a wise approach.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lethe View Post
    Since my personal safety and health gets sacrificed for the overall mission, it's not uncommon for me to bite off more than I can chew. Sometimes, I encounter a nasty case of inner conflict because I haven't established enough individual boundaries for myself.
    @bold - I can really relate to this.

    Quote Originally Posted by proximo View Post
    In all tests I've done (online ones, ones in books and ones in person with a pro dude), I've been consistently stuck right between types 7 and 8.
    Wow that's pretty interesting. For myself, when I read the description of a 9 I knew it was me, without even doing the formal testing. Sometimes these things jump out as obvious and sometimes not.

    Thanks for sharing proximo.
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    "When people see some things as beautiful,
    other things become ugly.
    When people see some things as good,
    other things become bad."
    Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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    According to this enneagram stuff I'm a 1w2 so/sx.

    So what do you want to know?
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    Social Penetration Theory 1
    Social Penetration Theory 2
    Social Penetration Theory 3

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    I'm INFP 4 So/Sp. Since discovering my instinctual variant, I've become less sure of my wing.
    "Why had he never appreciated what a miracle he was, brain and nerve and bounding heart?"

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    ENFP 7w6 so/sx/sp

    The 6 wing and the 'sp' variant could function similarly I think as they are both 'vigilant', or rather, traits you have could be explained by either. I wonder if it's possible to transition to an 8 wing? That would be nice.
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    .... I thought there would be snacks :/


    Checking in as 8w7 so/sx/sp.

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